i’m just like my mum…

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i’m just like my mum…

well basically i hate her, she walked out on me my dad and siblings for another woman nearly 2 years ago and since she left i’ve remaind pretty distant from her. Its starting to really get me down how alike we are and i think i’m starting to hate myself.

I’ve had problems with depression before, like her, and we’ve both attempted suicide (i’m 16) i’m really bright in certain areas and have very high expectations of myself and whenever i fail in them i’m devestated. I have plenty of people around me who are there for me and always help so i just don’t know why i still feel so down.

I hate myself for being like her and don’t know how to stop.

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (4 minutes after post)

I fail to see how you are like her?
If you mean the depression, that doesnt make you like her.
Have you ever been treated for it?

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3 weeks, 1 day ago (6 minutes after post)

i’m like her in personality, i don’t mean depression. i mean how we act and i can’t change what i do… thats what i’m struggling with

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (12 minutes after post)

Pepole can not change their character trait’s but this does not mean you are so like her, you don’t need to behave the way she does, you may be subconsciously coppying her, not coz you want to be like her, just coz thats what you see, now she is not in your life her actions will have less of an effect on you.
You are the master of your own world, your not your mum.
If you act like her, that is just your mannerisms (sorry i think i spelled it wrong) Its not that your actually like her.

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Anonymous #
3 weeks, 1 day ago (18 minutes after post)

the trubble is i do see her, maybe 1-2 times a months and my siblings are with her half the time. i can’t decide if it would be better for my health to totally separte myself from her

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (25 minutes after post)

This is maybe something you could benifit from talking to a councellor about.
1 - 2 times a month isnt a lot but if you think that is still bad for you maybe you should stop seeing her.
Are you sure about how you feel about her in the long term & that its not just coz your angry with her right now?
Your 16, you don’t really NEED her anymore but it’s still good to have your mum in your life at some level if its possible & not too destructive.

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (31 minutes after post)

You can hate what she has done, but you shouldn’t hate her.
And you shouldn’t hate yourself for failures but accept your failures as a sign that you need to try harder. When people reject their failures they actually reject a part of themselves that has the experience to over come them. Therefore they become caught in a loop.
And I don’t think that you’re like your mom - Do you like guys? Would you walk out on your own children (if you had them) to be with someone else? If not, then I don’t think you’re like your mom.
Further, you shouldn’t be too disgusted with the parts of yourself that may be like the good of your mom (she has good in her regardless of what happened).

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