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i have bin goin out with this girl for 18months, wen all of a sudden she sed she wanted to finish things.

i could see things wernt goin rite she didnt seem to make as much of an effort in the end. she sed the reason shes doin it is cause her head is a mess andshe wants to b single for a while as she has been in one relationship to another for the past 7 years. i totally understand this, and i know she still loves me. how long do i wait to see if we can work again??? as i dont think im ready to be single again!

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Mysterious Obsession offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 1 day ago (4 minutes after post)

Wouldnt it be better if you talked to her and found out if she could see anything happening between the two of you in the future? That way you could still be there for her in her time of need (so to speak) and it would pay off in the end? Also, if she says that she doesnt know, then you could stick by her anyway and remain to be close friends?

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2 weeks, 1 day ago (8 minutes after post)

we r tryin to remain friends, is a little wierd sometimes, and hasnt got any easy for both of us. we had a chat wen we finshed and she tried to explain where her head is. she sed wen she sorts her head out and if we r both stil single then we can give it another go. ‘fate’ - i guess its called, but she says she cant put a time scale on it, so i dunno how long i can wait for her…

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An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 1 day ago (12 minutes after post)

yer course i do, i wouldnt ave bin goin out wit her for this long if i didnt. but who knows wot the future holds and how she wil feel after her head is sorted i mite not b part of the plan, and i dunno wot id do then…

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Mysterious Obsession offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 weeks, 1 day ago (17 minutes after post)

The best thing to do would be just to be there for her right now, just to show that you’re there and that you love and care for her. Then, later on down the line, you never know, you could be back together and stronger than ever. If not, at least you tried and although you would be deeply hurt, you would still have the satisfaction of knowing that you helped someone you loved through a difficult time? Who knows, you could even remain close friends, and then you could move on?

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