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Am I Being Selfish?

My fiance is having to go to her grandma’s some 6hr away from thanksgiving and this is the first thanksgiving we would have had and i want her here. i want to know is it selfish to want her here even though her grandma is dieing. she is going up there but i feel crushed to not have her for the first year we would have had thanksgiving. am i a bad person for wanting her with me? this is the hardest time of the year for me since my grandma who was like a 2nd mother to me passed away and it hard for me to be alone. and her famliy hates me and will not let me go with her.

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

ok, you’ve dealt with the situation she’s in now yourself. why not go with her? you won’t be alone & you’d be there to help her through this.

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

Why don’t you go with her? After all, you are her fiance, practically family.

jaybob1519 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

her famliy hates me would not let me come with her

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Am I Being Selfish?

My fiance is having to go to her grandma’s some 6hr away from thanksgiving and this is the first thanksgiving we would have had and i want her here. i want to know is it selfish to want her here even though her grandma is dieing. she is going up there but i feel crushed to not have her for the first year we would have had thanksgiving. am i a bad person for wanting her with me? this is the hardest time of the year for me since my grandma who was like a 2nd mother to me passed away and it hard for me to be alone.

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beatricegalant 9 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

O, o. That’s a problem. Do you have family you can go to or your grandma was the only one.

jaybob1519 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

my famliy all over now so i am alone here.

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (31 minutes after post)

I’d say if she wants you there go, otherwise make other plans

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (46 minutes after post)

It doesn’t make you a bad person. She’s your fiance, you love her, you want to be with her, it’s all natural. Just try not to worry so much about it. She’ll be ok, you’ll be ok, and it’ll all work out.

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (54 minutes after post)

Things happen, your not a bad person, just hearing that you want to see her before she dies is a thoughtful thing. I hope you get to see her.

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

relationships are a give and take
you give all you got
and take all that is given to you
keeping your fiance around depends on how you 2 r
u sound like me
an emotional leach
but with the prospect of a death in the family
it is good to give leave of absence.
but her decision should be based on what you tell her, your permision,
then agine most american women are to stuborn to ascept that role in the home anymore
and most american men are to whimpy to keep that standard anymore

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

Let her go and visit her grandma. After all she is dying.
Its not wrong to want her with you, i mean you love her.

Maybe you can make other plans. Stay with a friend or something.
Or go with her. Even though her family hates you just tell them I’m gonna be part of your family soon and I love your daughter and I want to be there for her. something like that

~CharloTTe

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An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 54 minutes after post)

um…if your own grandma died and you miss her so much, then surely you can understand why she would want to be with her grandma at this time of year.
yes, youre being very selfish, this could be the last time she EVER sees the woman, youre gonna be around for a lot longer.
let her have one week/end for goodness sakes, are you that insecure you must have her round you 24/7?

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