I am an ex US soldier. - Help.com

Most states and counties have some sort of counseling available through their respective department of health and human services (name will vary from place to place), and I wouldn’t be surprised in the least if the VA offered similar services. HHS here provided counseling and medication for free when I became despondent and a danger to my welfare, and I know that schools of psychiatry offer free or inexpensive counseling as well, its a fairly common practice. Crisis aversion as a public good.

Understanding that the actions you fantasize about will lead to prison life, and the reality of life in prison are totally different situations. Landing yourself in prison won’t help your mindset, and it sure won’t help your brothers and sisters, it may even distract some of them who care about you and your situation.

Talk to someone. A professional. Talk to them more than once, and follow their guidance. There’s a better way out of your troubles than in chains or a box.

have you contacted a lawyer about being refused help by the military?
i imagine now would be a very good time to be kicking up a fuss, what with the guy who went mental on a base the other day and shot a bunch of people, the army willbe wanting to cover their arses very well, so right now could be the best time to get a lawyer in and tell them you were refused mental health help, ill bet theyll get you an epic deal out of it.

also, dont kill the guy. you seen CSI man? no way youre gettin away with it.

‘Karma’,or something like it exists, my friend. You don’t have to do anything to make it happen, that guy is bound to continue to make his own problems every time he makes them for someone else - his bad karma is already starting to kick in when he couldn’t get together with the wife he stole from you. And things like that catch up on a person in ways that can’t be measured, too.

Have you talked to your credit card companies or even to a lawyer to see if there’s a way to recover any part of the expenses that you had to foot? (okay sometimes those things are hard to prove, but it might be worth asking about, anyway. If you already have, pardon a redundant suggestion.)

Here is a crisis hotline phone number:(1-800-273-8255). It is a crisis and/or suicide hotline, but you don’t have to be suicidal to call. The help.com website usually suggests the number automatically in response to posts like yours. At least it’s free, you’d have someone to talk to, and they can often provide referrals to other services so you know what else exists in your area.

You’re innocent in all this. That guy’s parents are innocent too. Don’t land yourself in jail, or hurt anyone. Innocent people should never suffer.

It’s hard to remember you have a future when you’re still having to clean up a mess from the past, but you have many years ahead of you! It takes time to recover from prolonged stress, sometimes a very long time. But you have that time. In fourteen or fifteen years wouldn’t you rather find yourself stable, with children, living in a nice neighborhood, than still sulking in prison with a bunch of criminals? Wouldn’t you rather be free to choose your own job, to go to the movies, take a jog, or at least to pee in a clean private bathroom?

Today is the day you will get your help:)

Where are you stationed may I ask, I’m in georgia. Maybe if you are close by we can talk instead of sharing heartache over the internet. I myself have been through rough times and the military sucks when it comes to dealing with issues that are brought forward or not brought forward in a manner that screams hello get someone here to see what the hell is going on.

I feel very sorry for you to go through such heartbreaking “events” but you must remember: it takes two to tango. Losing a wife who was unfaithful to you and to your commitment is better than keeping her and feeling like you have a knife attached to your throat every day to fear when is she going to cheat you again. The other man who “stole” your wife and enjoys your resources is a ……………. They deserve each other. So the best thing to do and especially to your recovery from this is to let it go and move on. The military has pshyciatric counseling, some of my friends who are in the military, are using this service and it is very good according to them. Build your life up again one step at at time. You are worth it!