relationship help: I think, I just ruined my relationship. - Help.com

Aww Bless .. I May be Younge And You Might Think Its Easyer Than It Sounds But Sit Her Down Without Shouting And Tell Her ! Tell Her How Much You Love Her (L) It Works Trust Me !x Good Luck With WhatEver You Choose To Do x

your the only person who can distinguish for yourself what is right or wrong dear
go with your feelings and don’t let your mind confuse you..
the mind is analytical ..so for it some things may sound right but are not always right ..

use your feelings and your mind in a good combination..
cos when it’s right you’ll just know it

(hope i didn’t confuse you even further)

you’r love cannot always answer all your questions .. they can show you a path and direct you in the right direction, but you’r the one who has to walk on it..
so don’t think your love did not answer you.. she did .. and she can’t give a proper answer cos well there is none..
that is really for you to decide..
also when your done reading this.. look here.. and give me a big toothy smile :)
hope you feel better after that :)

Why does she feel you don’t know wrong from right? Are you lying or stealing or cheating? What type of behaviour are you exhibiting to get this response?

sigh.. look at what you wrote miss.. you thought of something and you know it might be wrong in the end..
so if you know its gonna be wrong in the end.. why would you go with it ??

i can’t explain the intricacies of what’s right or wrong.. even a right choice can go bad in the end..
what i am saying is that you should do what you think is right..
not what others think might be right.. (although here again you need to open minded and listen to their reasoning)

aww miss don’t cry now!
you can change yourself.. just will yourself that either i can cry right now or i can do something about it..
and the first step to change is to stop crying!

no your not corrupted and your not falling apart..
its human to cry and feel ..

take a deep breath and listen to some happy music miss :)

i can’t personally wipe your tears..
BUT
*magically a tissue box appears in front of you*

I’m not really clear on what the two of you are figting about other than:

“And when it comes down to it… I feel like I’m cheating… but every time I ask her if that would be cheating… she tells me no…”

If you feel like you’re cheating, & you are repeatedly asking her if she thinks your behavior constitutes cheating, then it sounds like (1) you are frequently tempted to go outside the relationship; (2) you are inching closer and closer to that point; and (3) she can’t help but sense that you are heading in that direction, because you keep asking her about it. Maybe it doesn’t really have anything to do with you knowing what’s right or wrong. It’s more a matter of why you are inching in that direction? What’s wrong with the relationship you have? Why are you not either fully committed or bold enough to move on? Are you secretly sabatoging your relationship so it will end without you having to end it?

what you need to do.. and im sure aloooot of people have said it already..
is to talk to her openly about it..
that’s the bond that connects you… talking.. sharing thoughts ..

also it appears your not comfortable with roleplaying even though you like it..
if it’s making you feel so bad why not stop it all together?

We can’t help you with an addiction, miss..
we can give you all the hope you need
but the motivation and the step has to be done by yourself..

From that further information, if you keep doing something that hurts you, it sounds more like an addiction issue. But once you’re clear what the real problem is, you can start to heal it. People can become addicted to all sorts of things, but there’s lots of resources to help (books, groups, therapy, etc). If you can admit it now, then you can set yourself and your relationship as the priorities & move in a postive direction of healing.