How can I have no emotions or desires? - Help.com

It is pretty much impossile to block all feeling & emotion, it’s hard enough to just try to control it.

ok, so tell me why you are feeling so depressed right now and then maybe we can go from there because being able to turn emotions and desires off is kind of impossible.

only with a lifetime of training can you achieve this.

and i strongly doubt you want this. i’m pretty sure you just got hurt over something and don’t want to feel the pain, but life just doesn’t work that way.

Anonymous wrote:
only with a lifetime of training can you achieve this.

and i strongly doubt you want this. i’m pretty sure you just got hurt over something and don’t want to feel the pain, but life just doesn’t work that way.

What training? How?

I am pretty sure monks do it, zen or something, but you can train the mind to not feel anything, good/bad pain etc

You can do it through deep meditation, but that requires total renunciation of everything, and I mean everything.

There ARE other cures for depression, if things like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and stuff aren’t working, there is medication & antidepressants.

Best step is to see a doctor.

But why do you think apathy is the only cure for it?

J.N Not Lost - Found wrote:
What training? How?

well, maybe not all for emotions - but for desires and expectations.

it’s what devout buddhists are all about : getting to a point where you can let go off all earthly attachments, hence freeing oneself from desires/expectations. it’s the ‘good’ kind of apathy.

“I live. I rest. I am at peace. It is good.” [david carradine]

I feel the exact same way :-/ and I don’t know what to do about it, either.

Anonymous wrote:
I feel the exact same way :-/ and I don’t know what to do about it, either.

get a positive mindset.

Oh yes, I do want this. The best periods of my life were periods of strong apathy. I feel negative feelings otherwise…so I feel content if I’m apathetic.

OP~

I’m not sure where to even begin with why I feel so depressed. My best friend and the only person I’ve ever loved drifting away…looking for someone to replace him and failing, not having any close friendships, thinking about the future after I’m done with school, when I enter the “real world” and how everyone from school will just drift apart and forget me…I don’t know. I’ve been wanting to suicide since I was in middle school~. Sometimes I’ll experience periods of apathy and feel completely alright, then it comes back and each time I feel more suicidal than the last. I’m just too scared of failing at suicide and becoming completely handicapped or smth..or “IF” there’s some kind of hell, or I’m doomed to haunt the earth alone after death if I suicide x_X even though I’m agnostic. But if I were sure that my suicide could be 100% successful, and there was nothing after death, I would definitely go for it. I wish nembutal was easily accessible.

Don’t wish to feel nothing. When feelings are gone life just doesn’t feel the same. Being apathetic feels empty and lonely. You will not care for anything or anyone, then you slowly end up all by yourself because you simply don’t care. If you want your feelings to get better, time and positive behavior is the best way. I hope that you start to feel better. Depression can be fixed with positive thinking. If anything I would wish for having an optimistic outlook on life, that would be the most help.

OP again~

Also, I ******* hate how people are so ******* selfish. Everyone only wants to be around me when I’m feeling well, when they can “have fun” or take advantage of me, but no one’s there when I need help. **** people.

I want everyone to die, including myself. -_-

Also, **** school. I have a 4.5 GPA, but that’s only because I feel like I have to do well in school. Everything is so pointless. **** money.

At first I thought you were asking why is it that you have no emotions or desires, bu then I realized that you were asking “how can I become apathetic?” I imagine that you want to get rid of emotions because the emotions you are having are painful and depressed and thus feel better. In other words I suspect you are more interested in feeling good than in feeling nothing. Am I right?
My response would depend a lot on how old u r. If you are 14, i figure it goes with the territory!!! If u r 41, that’s another story.
Bub

~LazyDaze~ wrote:
I am pretty sure monks do it, zen or something, but you can train the mind to not feel anything, good/bad pain etc

Anonymous wrote:
You can do it through deep meditation, but that requires total renunciation of everything, and I mean everything.

There ARE other cures for depression, if things like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and stuff aren’t working, there is medication & antidepressants.

Best step is to see a doctor.

But why do you think apathy is the only cure for it?

Anonymous wrote:

J.N Not Lost - Found wrote:
What training? How?

well, maybe not all for emotions - but for desires and expectations.

it’s what devout buddhists are all about : getting to a point where you can let go off all earthly attachments, hence freeing oneself from desires/expectations. it’s the ‘good’ kind of apathy.

“I live. I rest. I am at peace. It is good.” [david carradine]

I have no intentions of becoming a monk, im female so im already ruled out for that, but i am curious to how else to control / remove emotions & feeling’s?
The ppl i have quoted here, you seem to know something, care to share? This isn’t my post but i would like to know how to do it?

Not feeling emotions does not fit in with life. At first it’s all gravy, but eventually it ruins your life and a it will take more than a message board to save you. I went through depression and one of the symptoms was that I had become apathetic. I woke up one day and realized I didn’t care about anything around me. The day someone made me cry, gave me so much hope. That I could feel for people and care about their feelings. I warn you now that you may think you want this, but all you are doing is running from something small that is going to turn into something big if you try and solve it with such irresponsibility. You are responsible for yourself, no one else. Take care of yourself in a positive way. I hope you all start to feel better. See a councelor right away and ask them for as much help as possible.

I don’t feel the way i probabally should, i think this is coz i got hurt really badly & im so determined it won’t ever happen again, my emotions are pretty shut off, they’re still there but not like most ppl’s are, i would actually like to learn how to control them completely.
Do you know how to do this?
Being emotionless isn’t soo easy, we still have to know how to control that, even if it’s just for the outside.