Hi, I have been dating my girlfriend for 2.5 months.

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Hi, I have been dating my girlfriend for 2.5 months.

So far we have had a lot of fun together, and things have been ok. The past two times we went out, I felt a bit disconnected from her and a bit ticked off about it. She should really appreciate me more, that’s how I felt. Finally, I called her today and suggested we see a movie with one of her favorite actors this week, and she was basically like “maybe, tuesday or thursday”. I was bit pissed off, because I didn’t even care to see the movie myself, I was trying to do something that she would like then she just said “maybe”. That pissed me off. Combined with our last two meetings, I decided to tell her that I want a 1 week break from the relationship because I don’t think that she shows enough enthusiasm towards me when I try to please her and such.. I told her I love her and I don’t want to end it or date other people, just a break. She also said she loves me and doesn’t see why we should take one, but I explained to her my reasons.

Now I am kind of afraid that she will think I don’t like her and jump into a defensive reaction by seperating herself further from the relationship even though I really do love her and the break is for the good of clearing our heads and making sure we can show each other the kind of love that we would want in a relationship that is headed towards becoming long term and serious.

I think I want to wait for the break to end, but do you think she is really worried? What should I do?

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garomomdjian 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 week, 6 days ago (12 minutes after post)

why did you tell her u want a 1 week break???? u could have done that by telling her ur sick or smth!!!! u could have stayed away from her 1 or 2 weeks, and she would have called you to meet up herself if she really loves you.

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Genesis721 11 #
An Unknown Location | 1 week, 6 days ago (50 minutes after post)

Yes, why suggest a one week break, when you want to spend more time with her? Is it because you want to have your way with her all the time? That’s not love, that’s control.

Search your motives for your relationship. Controlling people are always wanting a person to react to them and do what they say. They really aren’t giving of themselves to suit the other person’s needs. They are simply just controlling them and want a big pay off for the demands the other person seemingly places on them.

Talk to her and communicate your feelings. If you both love each other this can be worked out.

Anonymous #
1 week, 6 days ago (1 hour, 40 minutes after post)

If after a couple of months you are feeling unloved and unappreciated this is not the reltionship for you…. you can’t be in love this soon…. and when you do fall in love you’ll realise what i mean! You suggested a break in an attempt to make her appreciate you/miss you….. you’ve now set a pattern for the rest of your relationship…. move on…. there’s plenty out there who would appreciate someone doing thoughtful things for them like you have for her… go find one!

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