I know how you feel, I was with my first girlfriend almost purely online.
How about talking with him on the phone? That’s a good way to get closer, plus when you tell your parents about him, and they say something along the lines of ‘but he could be anyone’, then you’ve got proof - you’ve talked on the phone.
Good luck, I hope you two do well together! :)
We talk on the phone most days, plus with the use of webcams, we can see each other as well. The last time I mentioned to my parents about meeting up with a friend from online, (he was just from Glasgow) they replied with “he isn’t a friend, just someone you talk to om msn” when I had met with this person before. After telling them that, they still held that he wasn’t a friend. I wan’t them to know that i’m happy with this guy, but they won’t give in to the idea that everyone over the internet is a pervert and isn’t who they say they are.
Hmm, perhaps you could actually let them see him on webcam and actually talk to him? This could prove to them that he’s a nice, normal guy, and help them get over this fear of technology.
They have seen him, dad walked past when he was on, but they have this way of thinking that if you can’t actually touch the person, they cant be a friend. They are rather old fashioned with their way.
I am with your parents. This guy could have a dozen little girls like you he is trying to convince to visit him. The other 11 are tied up in his basement because their parents were stupid unlike yours…
Thats a good point, but I have to say its false in this case. I don’t have “proof” that isn’t not, just after 8 months of talking, its took 2 before he would tell me his last name, and about 4 before we swapped numbers. Thats not the usual tactics of someone who is planning to abduct me. And its him thats going to be coming to be to visit. Also, I’m not silly enough to meet with this guy on my own, no matter how much i trust him. I’m going to have at least 2 of my friends when he comes.
i agree with ur parents! this guy is just an acquaintance!!
meet him , talk to him, get to know him better.
introduce him to ur parents , let them see he’s a good guy (if he is)
and always ask ur parents for advice, they know best, they have more experience in life than you!!
good luck
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Thats a good point, but I have to say its false in this case. I don’t have “proof” that isn’t not, just after 8 months of talking, its took 2 before he would tell me his last name, and about 4 before we swapped numbers. Thats not the usual tactics of someone who is planning to abduct me. And its him thats going to be coming to be to visit. Also, I’m not silly enough to meet with this guy on my own, no matter how much i trust him. I’m going to have at least 2 of my friends when he comes.
don’t be fooled! there are lots of psychos out there, who find pleasure in these kinda stuff!
Everyone’s so paranoid!
Jeez, just be careful and use common sense with meeting people and there shouldn’t be any problem.
Think about it - how is anyone walking around out in public less dangerous than someone on the internet? If anything, the internet’s safer! Just don’t be stupid, simple as that.
I really don’t know how you could ‘convince’ your parents that this person is a good guy for you to be friends with if they they have not seen him in person. It is always best to meet them in person and to continually connect with them and eventually if the two of you get into exclusive dating, he would meet your parents in person.
Well I’m glad that you are at least smart about being safe. Do you know how old this guy is? How old are you? If you’ve seen him on webcam then that’s a big plus. Predators generally won’t go on webcam, though that isn’t always true. Just stay safe. Your parents have the final word though, if you’re a minor. Don’t disobey them.
We’re both 17, plus i’m in contact with a few of his friends through various sites and msn. So, not being presumptuous but I know he isn’t a “predator” [:
I’m actually best mates with the bloke in this equation, and can vouch for him and his decent personality :)
I think Ari-hime, you should just take the time to reasonably and methodically discuss with your parents that you are in a relationship with someone, and that you are taking it seriously and he is too. If needs be, get your fella on the phone to them, so they can get to trust him, I mean I’m sure you two have the intention of meeting up at some point, and I’m sure they would rather they at least knew who you were seeing, as opposed to you lying to them, or you meeting up with who they deem a complete stranger.
Hmm… Yes, an over the internet relationship has a chance of succeeding. But the problem is that you lack the knowledge of how they act in person. I see that difference on an equal level to the difference between the theory and practicism.
So, my suggestion is to first invite the stranger over so that your parents won’t consider him so much of a stranger. Don’t go yourself, *that* is dangerous. If he’s willing to go the distance, that must be worth something in the unrelated’s eyes.
His friends can say all the positive things about him but your parents don’t know a thing about this guy. The only thing he can do is to wait till he gets on his feet and see you and your parents in person.
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