Love help: Am I wrong or is she right?

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Am I wrong or is she right?

Hi, my girlfriend and me have been dating like for almost 8months? And. well okay let’s start by this, there is a program almost as aim, just cellular, called mxit, and we live like 80km from each other. But next year I’ll go to university in her town always okay, lets start the question. We’ve been going out for some time we had our ups and downs… but this time it’s been really bad. And I don’t know

I have a friend (girl) me and she been chatting on face book and mxit, not allot and she lives like miles away, My girlfriend got insecure and cried and was mad at me for speaking to her, so I said okay, if it upset you so much I will “delete” this other friend of mine. I’ll offer anything for you… Then that following night she goes out and dances with other guys, now I’m like? Why you got upset for me talking to my other friend while you may DANCE with other guys?

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ashely_l 3 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (6 minutes after post)

she getting you back!
youu talk to another female kind and she dances with andother male kind!
just talk to her about!

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Dr. Ralph 69 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (14 minutes after post)

Did you already delete your other friend? Sounds like you may need her.

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joubse 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (19 minutes after post)

it just pisses me off…

Dr. Ralph 69 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (25 minutes after post)

Yeah and how do you know she didn’t do more than just dance? Where you there?

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willia #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (26 minutes after post)

Dump your gf and get together with the other friend. The risk you run with your current gf isn’t worth it, considering the other might be taken by the time your current gf makes “a mistake” and your relationship falls apart.

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sarisa_grimwing 5 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (29 minutes after post)

ashely_l wrote:
she getting you back!
youu talk to another female kind and she dances with andother male kind!
just talk to her about!

I agree with ashley, she felt hurt so she felt she needed to reciprocate the feeling to you the best way she knew how. So she did something that she knew would upset you. Talk it out.

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sarisa_grimwing 5 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (29 minutes after post)

Oh and neither of you are right or wrong, 2 wrongs don’t make a right.

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (42 minutes after post)

First of all…I have been there on both sides. It isn’t pretty when a relationship doesn’t have trust. She got mad at you because you guys have other problems and are not communicating effectively. She probably wanted to make you mad, though that was immature. Maybe the distance has you both having needs that you can’t fulfill while you are apart. You have to decide if that is the case and if it is, are you willing to allow each other an open relationship until you can be together? That can work, but you must both be VERY open and honest and keep no secrets.

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garomomdjian 5 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 1 day ago (51 minutes after post)

this time you were only chating with a friend –> she danced with a guy, next time if she sees you walking with a girl (also a friend) God knows what she’s gonna do!!!
dump her !

nab 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 weeks ago (8 hours, 50 minutes after post)

This is the general conception of the population that says dump her. Relationships have become like utilities which we dont hesitate to dump as soon as it starts showing up problems. Its bone chilling to imagine children getting this sort of idea from us adults and all starting to dump their scolding parents and fighting siblings.
Possessiveness has become more important than love and understanding and acceptance.
This is why we keep dumping and getting dumped.
My opinion is dont listen to anyone other than your own heart. People around you will always try to break your relationship, the happier you are the more they ll try, and the moment you show some weak spot they immediately hit at it. I myself have severely suffered from the same problem that you are going through. Communication and understanding is the only solution and to reach that we have to dump our egos.

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joubse 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks ago (1 day, 1 hour after post)

Thanks for the help… We talked allot tonight… Although.. she feels beter.. I said I do but actuly i don’t. The feeling wil probley get beter with time!

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