ok my ex is giving me some mixed signals, could you help me out and figure out what it is shes saying? - Help.com

She wants you back. She realizes what she had with you and wants to give it another shot. Do you?

littlenick wrote:
She wants you back. She realizes what she had with you and wants to give it another shot. Do you?

im still figuring that out. sometimes i feel the way i did when we were dating, other times i feel like i did when we werent talking. so im not sure where i am. more often than not i want to be with her though.

why dont you just ask her whats going on. it sounds like she is hitting on you. if you want to get back together its look like it could happen. you should only get back together if it feels right and you think it is going to work this time.

Think she the kind of person that craves constant attention. Why is she your ex?
Carol

I would make “an appointment,” notice I said “appointment, to see her and talk things through. Do you think it’s worth it?

my ex and i are in the same situation and finally talked it out. we want to be together, we just needed some time apart to realize it.

crbeair wrote:
why dont you just ask her whats going on. it sounds like she is hitting on you. if you want to get back together its look like it could happen. you should only get back together if it feels right and you think it is going to work this time.

i did ask her, she said she wasnt sure where she was.

Lckleinhan wrote:
my ex and i are in the same situation and finally talked it out. we want to be together, we just needed some time apart to realize it.

how did you approach talking it out with ehr?

candp wrote:
Think she the kind of person that craves constant attention. Why is she your ex?
Carol

the reasons we broke up are really complicated, its hard for anyone to really understand completely. but when we ended she definitely didnt like me any more and i hated her at that point. now i dont know. and she doesnt crave constant attention. shes not a flirty girl.

mmm ur ex is definitely sending mixed signals alright.
why don’t u just go up to her and ask what she’s up to?
and i don’t mean the “is this happening again?” type of questions. probably more like the “do u still like/love me?” type of questions. be upfront about it. I say this because asking her straight out can do two good things for u:
1:it puts her at the position where she needs to clearly think about how she feels about you and make a decision about what to do with her feelings and give you an answer. which can potentially help u two be more straingfoward with each other about ur feelings.
2: this is just really for ur safety in the situation. asking her what she’s really up to and telling her that what she’s doing is confusing you would make her rethink about her actions. cos u’d want to avoid that if she’s only flirting with u right now cos u guys brok up and she feels lonely and wants to get back together just for the sake of having u by her side again. mmmm cos really, girls sometimes have the tendency to do that.
hope that helps.

I believe she wants to give a “GO” again. She appears to be having second thoughts and wants to work things out. She probably wants you to make the first move, after all you were the one that broke up with her.

LittleNick is right. She wants you back but, do you want her? Without knowing what the breakup was about in the first place, its pretty hard to tell if she can change or not. That’s for you to decide.

Keep communicating with her if you do want her back and try to talk things through. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Good luck and keep us posted.

candp wrote:
how did you approach talking it out with ehr?

i am the her lol. and idk. finally i just went over to his house and told him i needed to know what we were or what was going on because i couldnt sit around waiting. if it was over, i needed to know so i could move on.

CharylCamida wrote:
mmm ur ex is definitely sending mixed signals alright.
why don’t u just go up to her and ask what she’s up to?
hope that helps.

im not a very bold person to be honest. asking her is against my nature haha.

i think you have to decide if you can put the past in the past, whatever happened to you guys when you broke it off. if its a big deal to you and something you cant forget, then you might need more time to get over the whole situation

oo….this might be a really dangerous thing to do. but if ur curious, send out the words that ur “dating” a good girl pal of urs and see what she would do. xD

breezy. wrote:
i think you have to decide if you can put the past in the past, whatever happened to you guys when you broke it off. if its a big deal to you and something you cant forget, then you might need more time to get over the whole situation

what do you think of the signs shes sending though? i want to know if i have to get over it before i try to.

if i was her sending those signals, it would be me wanting you back. but she might be having the same issues as you, not being able to let go of what happened between you before. she might be hurt or whatever still.

Whatever it is that you gave her when you were together, she misses it! ;)

breezy. wrote:
if i was her sending those signals, it would be me wanting you back. but she might be having the same issues as you, not being able to let go of what happened between you before. she might be hurt or whatever still.

trust me, she didnt get hurt, i may have said some things afterwards, but the breakup did not hurt her.

ah okay. well then she might be afraid to jump back into things knowing she hurt you, or just plain confused about her feelings. girls can be flirts. haha

Perhaps she is just that immature and not ready for a long term commitment. If the breakup had no effect on her, perhaps you should move on. I would want someone to be involved with me so much so that our breakup would be very hard and painful. But then that’s just me.

Genesis721 wrote:
Perhaps she is just that immature and not ready for a long term commitment. If the breakup had no effect on her, perhaps you should move on. I would want someone to be involved with me so much so that our breakup would be very hard and painful. But then that’s just me.

im saying it didnt affect her. its just the way it went down, i was the one who got hurt by her. to be honest not talking to her was essentially my way of getting back at her. but like i said that month she seemed really down and out. and then once we started talking she seemed to be doing better. that could just be in my head, but its what i saw. she didnt really go out with friend for the first month, since we started talking she has again. she was bummed out, but i was the one who got screwed over by the breakup. which is why i was bitter for awhile.

she probly felt wicked bad abotu what happened, hence her being all bummed.