my boyfriend broke up with me two days after he quit smoking weed. - Help.com

he is trying to adjust to not smoking i suppose,
and is not himself..
so yes i’d say he’s being “stupid” right now…

He’ll be back, but will you wait?

He relates you to his smoking pot and he wants to be free and clear of anything that reminds him of his smoking pot days. Sorry.

He wont relate me to them, because I wouldn’t smoke with him. I’m not a big fan of weed, so he’d smoke with other people and never when he was going to see me or talk to me, because he knows my opinions of it, but also just felt weird doing it. I told him whatever made him happy in moderation was fine. He quit for me, then quit me too.

Will he be back?

I will wait. We had a beautiful relationship and it feels unfinished. I think it does to him too, but he’s overwhelmed and in denial. I just hope these are more of accuracies than just hope

Are you sure he didn’t decide to continue smoking weed and that is why he needs his space.

there is a chance he’s still smoking. Someone posted something about a spliff on his facebook. And if he had quit smoking then this guy, his friend, would have known by now and wouldn’t have posted it- because he’s a decent friend, wouldn’t joke around about it. But my ex knows I love him whether he smokes or not and want to be with him. But, it could be something along the lines of not wanting me to know he can’t quit, and that’s why he can’t talk to me right now.

i guess you can try and talk to him??
maybe your right that he couldn’t quit and is ashamed to tell you that..
addictions take a long time to resolve..

This would be my first guess since the timing is so close to him quitting.

Oh so you are the one who posted this?

http://help.com/post/326230-do-you-un…

Look, I know you must be confused right now and really disillusioned but you need to just CHILL and stop making excuses for him. Lady, he BROKE UP WITH YOU. Let me repeat that. BROKE UP, WITH YOU. He ended the relationship. That means, he does not want to be with you. If he wanted to be with you, he would have said that he needed time and that maybe a break in the relationship would be good. But breaking up? NO. That means that he made a conscious decision to end things with you.

It doesn’t matter in the SLIGHTEST what reasons he gave you for breaking up. Not at all. Nor does it matter what he said to you, that he said he loved you, that he wants to be with you, IT DOESN’T MATTER. He broke up with you. MANY people who are too afraid to hurt other people’s feelings, or are too cowardly to break up with somebody cold turkey take these kind of routes because they don’t want any conflict, or to feel guilty for their actions. MANY people do this. You say he is a spiritual person, he is wise, whatever he is it doesn’t matter because at the end of the day he BROKE UP WITH YOU.

Now look, I really hate being cut and dry like this but I hate seeing people being broken up with and then making excuses for the other person as to why they broke up with you, and saying things like ‘I know they love me, they will come back to me, he said so himself’ and just make it a whole lot WORSE than it should be.

I’ll say it again, men are simple creatures overall. If a guy breaks up with you, he MEANS IT. So do yourself a favour and start to move on with your life. And look, there is a possibility he will come back to you, but do you want to be with someone who does not clearly want to BE WITH YOU? If he did, he would have suggested a break, not ‘breaking up’ and being just friends, and then saying he couldn’t talk to you because it was too fast.

Start counting your losses and move on. It needs to be done, because you can be dwelling on it like this for as long as you want to and never get any clear answers and continually be back at square one wondering what will happen and what he is doing.

Protip: MOVE ON.

Ready? Honesty?
I am over this relationship. I miss spending time with him and our fun times, but I’m doing well. this seems ridiculous but im worried that im pregnant. i know, i know, i need to get checked and i will. But, I guess as much as I try to dig around the subject of our breakup … I just don’t want to put him in a bad situation and i know it would be a better situation if he still loved me, like he says he does. Now what?

This sucks. I hope I’m wrong .. but we shall see. I’m not the type to get pregnant. He was my first. We were completely safe and responsible about it. I went to private school, go to a good college.. I can’t be.

Well it’s good to hear that you are starting to accept it and move on, seriously, it will do you a world of good and you know that :) About the pregnancy, do get it tested and of course if you do happen to be pregnant you can always abort it. Hopefully though this isn’t the case.

You don’t need to worry about him anymore. Don’t think about him or what kind of situation it is. The hardest thing you can do right now, but the BEST thing is to just put him out of your mind. Forcibly do it, every time you think about him, just remind yourself that it’s over and you need to begin to heal, take a breath and keep going with what you’re doing. The more you forcibly take him out of mind, the quicker you can start to completely get over him and the relationship and you’ll feel better soon about it all.

I am very sorry to hear about what’s happened to you though. I do sympathise with you completely and it is hard. Just know though that there are people here who are always willing to listen and to try and help you. I guarantee that in time you will feel better about everything. It does take time, and the amount of time varies with each person, but time truly does heal all wounds. I wish you all the best anonymous. Keep us updated with any news you have :)