Love help: I pushed him away without knowing… - Help.com

If you have to force his interest in you I am not so sure a relationship is such a good idea.

Why not meet with him and do something that shows him you’re interested in him. Step outside of your comfort zone for a quick second when you’re with him and show him who you are on the inside without that shy barrier. I mean, put yourself in his shoes. When that girl was sitting in between you both you should have stayed to show him that you’re not going to be walked upon and throw out of the loop because you’re not stepping up to the plate.

Try stepping up since he doesn’t like confrontation. Let him know you’re serious.

katrienne.moyenn wrote:
You might be right, Adam. It’s just a shame, because he showed so much interest over the past couple of months and I feel like I let him down.

Sweetheart I don’t want to be right. I mean I don’t know the situation. You’re young I’m sure note passing would be a good way to communicate, haha.

It all depends on the type of guy he is. Does he ever try holding your hand or kissing you or anything like that?

I don’t know, if I was in your position I would of initiated something like that first and not be all traditional or laid-back about it. I’d be aggressive in what I wanted to let him know that I was serious. I always hear that actions speak louder than words. You know what I mean?

katrienne.moyenn wrote:
He’s actually pretty shy too, but I do get what you mean. I’ll try and be more aggressive; just hope the best for me!

I do really hope all goes well! Good luck!

I wish you the best. :) get your mannn.

lols.

Yeah, I’d say you just gotta tell him how you feel somehow, if you think you pushed him away, it might just be that he’s picked up that there’s something you’re not telling him (though I’ll bet he has no idea what it is if he has), and he’s just reacting to that.
As for suggestions on what to do… I’m pretty shy myself, I suck at telling people things when I’m there in person. Kissing him would convey the message though wouldn’t it? Some people might think its a bit extreme, but I’d have though it’d just be easier to just grab him and kiss him (any style you want, just a peck on the lips would do) than to come out and say something.
Alternatively, I know a lot of girls don’t like getting confessions by text or MSN or whatever, but I don’t think there’s any guys that’d mind really, sure it’s nicer in person, but if it ain’t gonna happen, what’s the point making it your only option?

Oh, and good luck!

I wouldn’t worry, you just have to be patient, there are hundreds of good reasons why he wouldn’t have replied yet. You just need patience, communication, and a bit of optimism.