im scared to go home because of my dad - Help.com

um… he is abusing you. its called verbal abuse and neglect and both are forms of abuse. you shouldnt feel like that and seriously consider contacting authories

his my only family and im really scared of what he would do if he found out i called the authoriets

its not right that your “only family” is doing this to you. if he cared don’t you think he would realize that hes your only family and treat you better. he obviously has a lot to handle and cant raise your properly.

It’s obvious to me from your post above that your dad is going through a real hard time because of your moms death. Unfortunately nothing will really help him through this other than time and possibly therapy. But he has to want the therapy if he doesn’t, it won’t work.

I would say to just try and be understanding of him for a little while longer, and hope it works out. If not possibly get an intervention together. In the mean time make sure you have some friends or family that you can stay with in case he wants you to leave again.

i cant stand to be in the same room as him
because everytime he sees me he yells at me
but sometimes he just goes dead silent
its been 3 years since mums passing
i just cant stand the comments and crying

Well if it has indeed been 3 years since her passing then he should have made some kind of progress. I would suugest looking for some family that you could possibly move in with on a permanent basis.

tell him how you feel and that you mothers passing affected you both if you can forgive then tell him that but dont take the fault for your mothers death just because a grieving husband needs an outlet to vent.

thank u all for ur comments btw
i have told him lots of things but he never listens its like ww3 when i step out my bedroom i do bascically everything and i have to balance school in between
sorry it sounds like im complainig
i just dont know what to do

u should not feel sorry for complaining if it has been three years then it is really time for him to learn to live with the emotions that he has you can be sad upset and even angry at the passing of a person, but never shouldit turn into abuse like this.

the weirdst thing is when he steps out of the house his such a nice person
and at work but when i get home from school the moment he steps throught the door his like a bomb ready to explode its like he saves it for me
i sometimes wonder if it is me

the weird thing is his really different when out in public and work its like he saves all his anger for me when i get home from school i sit and wait for him to come home
its all i think about when im at school i try not to let it bother me tho
i some times skip class so i can be away from everything and everyone
maybe this is why he doesnt like me

no its not why i sujest that u go to the school conselor this is a family issue and is more important than school im not saying skipping is the right thing to do but i can understand why u did it.

thank u for ur help
im scared of doing anything at the moment
see how it goes

dont be scared ur father loves u it is just that he is finding it difficult to deal with his emotions in a constuctive ways tell him also to seek counceling for his own and ur benifit