I could do with some advice.

MynameisBeth.

I could do with some advice.

My boyfriend of 1 year a 4 months..has never said I love you..not once. We see eachother everyday and he wants me to move in with him next year.

But I can’t help but worry that he doesn’t love me.
I don’t really want to bring it up because it’ll upset me and being upset causes me to really not get my point across.
Soon it’s my birthday and we’ll be staying in rather nice hotel (cost a fortune!!) with candles, champagne and a gorgeous king size bed.
I’ve planned it to the smallest detail, a new dress, new shoes, new hairstyle, new makeup etc etc…because I want him to say it…I don’t want to pressure him obviously but don’t you think that it would be a great time?
I really love this man..more than anyone..but I can’t bring myself to tell him through fear that I might get the “thankyou” or the “I love spending time with you” that I dread!
If he doesn’t…what should I do?
This is very important to me.
Am I overreacting?

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MynameisBeth. 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 6 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Sorry I think you misread, it’s 1 year and 4 months as opposed to 4 years.

Well..it was his idea to go to this hotel and where to go for dinnerand drinks..
I just don’t know whether he is planning anything at all…he’s pretty closed like that. never gives a hint. If I’m honest I’m pretty scared.

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MortallyWounded 6 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 6 months ago (9 minutes after post)

No, you are not overreacting. He should be telling you if he loves you.

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MynameisBeth. 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 6 months ago (17 minutes after post)

Well,
He always sends me messages during the day. saying how he is asking how I am and saying that he looks forward to seeing me later.
We never argue, we get on really well.
If I’m feeling down due to degree coursework or my job then he takes me out for dinner or rents a film that I want to see and we have a nice night in.
He always picks me up when he can to make sure I get where i’m going safely.
He buys me my favorite chocolate whenever he goes to get petrol.
I really love that he’s given me a nickname too…he calls me his piglet because I love anything food related =P he always says it in such a sweet way and buys me piggy related presents every now and again =]
He’s a really sweet guy and he does what ever he can for me.
Does he love me?

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psycocuddle 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 6 months ago (19 minutes after post)

It can be very hard for a man to admit he loves some one , especially if he has been hurt before. Does he talk about your future together at all ??

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MynameisBeth. 1 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 6 months ago (27 minutes after post)

He does, he’s got a 5 year plan.
Next year he is moving out and he wants me to go with him.
As a student it means that I can’t really afford much but he said that him paying all the rent doesn’t matter aslong as we have a place where we can be alone together and it not be in a stressed environment (Due to family)

He wants to emigrate eventually and talks about the type of house we could have, where it cold be ..even down to the animals he would want there.
It’s just confusing me.

And as for the piglet it’s not meant in a horrid “you’re fat” kind of way.. it’s just really sweet and it’s fun. It doesn’t offend me. I know that he isn’t being nasty with it and in a way it kind of makes me feel a bit special…if that makes sense?!

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 6 months ago (45 minutes after post)

I think that if I wait until the 4th of december (birthday evening)…and he doesn’t say anything..then I should really bring it up with him and ask him outright.
Thanks for the help guys, I’m jsut scared he doesn’t love me…whether thats just my head panicking or fact….

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