Why are guys so confusing?

HateLoveHateXx

Why are guys so confusing?

Well theres this guy, he liked me for the longest time and i thought i liked him for a day but then i realized i didnt. so i felt like a complete b**** and told him the truth(I still liked one of his friends:S) he got all upset and punched some lockers and broke some stuff(why do guys always break things when they’re upset?)I felt horrible and cried the whole day. Then he said it wasnt my fault and took my favourite braclet off my hand (i couldnt really say ‘no you cant have it’ so i let him)and said”i willl wait for you forever”, but i wasnt worried cause i thought guys didnt mean forever when they said it(learnt that with my experiance with his friend:S)but he kept waiting anad waiting and became sort of creepy stalkerish.Finally i told him i dont think we will ever become a thing and he broke some more lockers. Well really long story short:we faught a couple of times and were on talking terms off and on for two months. Finally we faught again and havent talked for the past month and a half. Then yesterday he gave my favourite braclet to his friend ti give to my friend to give to me. its not like i can wear it now, and whats he trying to tell me? he wants me to think hes over me? well whatever it is, I didnt know what to do with it so I gave it back to his friend to give back to him. What was i meant to do? keep it and never wear it, but take it back anyway?

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sahaven 101 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

he’s not like other guys!
IM DEFINITELY NOT LIKE THAT!

get away from him miss..
if he can hit lockers .. he can physically assault you too…
and give him back the bracelet and just tell him to stop trying to contact you.
Have a friend close by incase you feel afraid of him.

Anonymous #
3 months, 3 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

waw…. ok then, guys on a whole aren’t that bad. u just need to find the right one

spiratec9 42 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (32 minutes after post)

you were best to give the bracelet back to him and be over that guy.
He has anger issues.

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Shadowfawkingplay 6 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (46 minutes after post)

That guy has issues. Run for the hills.

But, you made a mistake. By giving him back the bracelet, you’re not giving him closure. He may even be hopeful for a future with you now. You should probably reiterate that the two of you are not going to happen.

Summer Rain 40 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (47 minutes after post)

But isn’t it your bracelet?
You should have kept it or threw it away. I think he mean to say he’s over you when he gave it back, but when you returned it it would have given the impression that you don’t want him to be…? I think

Dragon_Lady 13 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 27 minutes after post)

You are confusing him. The only way to make it clear to him that you will not be with him is to say so, and keep saying so. You have to stop talking to him; stop letting him engage you, and stop giving him false hopes. There’s no such thing as “letting him down easy” or “being friends”. He has to know that you do not want him, will never want him, and that he has to move on.

You should’ve taken the bracelet, even if you just put it in the trash. Letting him keep it serves to make him hope there’s still a chance. It’s like saying “keep this little piece of me ’till I want it back.”

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Shadowfawkingplay 6 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 31 minutes after post)

Dragon_Lady wrote:
You are confusing him. The only way to make it clear to him that you will not be with him is to say so, and keep saying so. You have to stop talking to him; stop letting him engage you, and stop giving him false hopes. There’s no such thing as “letting him down easy” or “being friends”. He has to know that you do not want him, will never want him, and that he has to move on.

You should’ve taken the bracelet, even if you just put it in the trash. Letting him keep it serves to make him hope there’s still a chance. It’s like saying “keep this little piece of me ’till I want it back.”

Exactly.

deejay41 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 36 minutes after post)

The answer to ‘why are guys confusing?’ is the same as the answer to ‘why are we the only planet with intelligent life?’: we (or they, in the context of your question) just are. For now, anyway.

The absolute love of my life and I were discussing our plans for my birthday two weeks in advance. Detailed, concrete, ironclad plans. Two days after we decided this, I had a family crisis; he broke it off, just like that. When A)I needed him the most and B)not 48 hours after we finalized plans for a 7 hour roadtrip and a weekend alone together (we hadnt seen each other in weeks because I was in another state tending to the problems that led to the eventual family crisis that resulted in the breakup). Which galaxy *that* concept came from and lodged up his ***, I’ll never know. I still feel really indignant and hurt, but there’s really nothing I can do about it. I mean, its not healthy to want to be with someone who has obviously decided they don’t reciprocate the feelings.

Christmas that year, he had given me a handmade piece of Irish jewelry. I treasured it for several reasons and while I havent touched it in many, many months, he’s fresh out of luck if he wants it back. If you dont want it then sell it, give it away, or trash it. If you give it to him, you’re opening up a whole can of worms.

And worms ain’t healthy ;-)

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HateLoveHateXx 17 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (9 hours, 55 minutes after post)

But anyway he will probably give it back again, and fine ill keep it this time, but i cant wear it right?that would be wierd. And you have noidea how many times and in how many ways ive told him we will never work out and to move on. He just didnt get it. Either he was upset and distant for a day and then the next day hes acting all normal again or he goes andpunches some lockers. He is way to emotional and all sensitive. He cried when i told him i still likes his friend:S and a day later he went and slapped him across the face( not hit him, but actually slapped him like a girl) and said ’she likes you’. Some girls like the sensitive type but i really cant stand them. They’re just so bleh. I mean, I want a manly guy who makes me feel protected not someone who would start crying at the drop of a hat…you know? but anyway guys are still so wierd, I mean this other guy dupmed me for saying i love you too soon (even though he said it back and he said it a million times more than i did AND he dumped me 3 weeks later) and then this guy tells me he loves me a day after he told me he liked me(a week after he even started to get to know me)!? I reall dont think i will ever understand guys:S

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Rainbow #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (10 hours, 23 minutes after post)

There are a lot better ways to invest your time than with guys. Stay away from anyone who destroys property when they are angry. You can tell a persons character by how they handle a situation where they do not get what they want. Violence is almost never the answer.

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Shadowfawkingplay 6 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 3 weeks ago (12 hours, 42 minutes after post)

ihateme wrote:
But anyway he will probably give it back again, and fine ill keep it this time, but i cant wear it right?that would be wierd. And you have noidea how many times and in how many ways ive told him we will never work out and to move on. He just didnt get it. Either he was upset and distant for a day and then the next day hes acting all normal again or he goes andpunches some lockers. He is way to emotional and all sensitive. He cried when i told him i still likes his friend:S and a day later he went and slapped him across the face( not hit him, but actually slapped him like a girl) and said ’she likes you’. Some girls like the sensitive type but i really cant stand them. They’re just so bleh. I mean, I want a manly guy who makes me feel protected not someone who would start crying at the drop of a hat…you know? but anyway guys are still so wierd, I mean this other guy dupmed me for saying i love you too soon (even though he said it back and he said it a million times more than i did AND he dumped me 3 weeks later) and then this guy tells me he loves me a day after he told me he liked me(a week after he even started to get to know me)!? I reall dont think i will ever understand guys:S

Yeah, stay away from him. This isn’t a silly little “I will never understand guys” issue. This is abnormal and bad. This boy has issues. You NEED to understand that. And don’t wear the bracelet, he’ll believe your thinking of him.

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