How can I fake happiness? - Help.com

Good luck with that one love. I tried that one a failed, I would just try to deal with it and not worry about them finding out. They will not know unless you tell them anyways, but if you try to hide it, it only works for so long.

A fake smile is not so hard to do, once you’ve been doing it for a while, it becomes more natural.
You should be looking into sorting out your depression rather than trying to hide it.

oh no :-(

agaperoot wrote:
Good luck with that one love. I tried that one a failed, I would just try to deal with it and not worry about them finding out. They will not know unless you tell them anyways, but if you try to hide it, it only works for so long.

Smile. Don’t talk about your problems to people at work. Tell jokes. Actually this will help you to not be so depressed to.

I am trying the fake smile, i hope it isnt too fake. Yes I am working on my depression, but it is going very slow to get better. I feel I take 1 step forward and 2 back. Its very frustating.

J.N Location unknown wrote:
A fake smile is not so hard to do, once you’ve been doing it for a while, it becomes more natural.
You should be looking into sorting out your depression rather than trying to hide it.

Jokes I got to try that, but I dont know any . ha-ha

Dr. Ralph wrote:
Smile. Don’t talk about your problems to people at work. Tell jokes. Actually this will help you to not be so depressed to.

Yes it is true it doesn’t hide very well after a while you have to deal with it or it deals with you. Then you can’t always find the perfect time to deal with it, but it will show up and you will have to do something to help yourself at that point.
Sorry :( You can overcome it, just start looking into it more.

You are correct - I got to work harder to get better P.S the holiday season is killing me my friend. I have 31 days to go -

agaperoot wrote:
Yes it is true it doesn’t hide very well after a while you have to deal with it or it deals with you. Then you can’t always find the perfect time to deal with it, but it will show up and you will have to do something to help yourself at that point.
Sorry :( You can overcome it, just start looking into it more.

wow - that is happy - I am not quite there but I will be there soon I hope

Bottle of Jack. wrote:
~Woke up this morning, the sun shine was shining, I put on my happy face.

I’m living, I’m able.
I’m breathing, I’m grateful-
-To put on my happy face.

:3

PUT IT ON.

FAKE A SMILE.

SING A TUNE.

First or all I applaud you for your desire to practice Professional Detachment. Too often today people unload all their personal information onto colleagues at work. It is highly unprofessional and distracting. Perhaps a close colleague at work that you absolutely trust you might confide certain things to, but in most instances it is absolutely appropriate to withhold everything about your private life from those with whom you work. A professional colleague will know this and respect it.

I once worked for a man for 4 years and did not know the name of his wife or child or the fact that his wife even gave birth to a second child during the course of our work relationship. I only knew he was married from his ring and a photograph on his bookshelf. This may sound extreme, but in hindsight, it kept us focussed on work. His life was private, it had no impact on our business, and therefore was not a topic of conversation.

Likewise I worked with a colleague once who was moody. When something bad happened in their life they became grumpy at work and it had a negative impact on our work environment. Everyone knew about his travails and problems and he eventually was overlooked for a promotion.

So again, your instincts are absolutely correct. Deep depression is hard to mask, but try first of all to stay focussed and busy at work. Smile, be unfailingly polite. Find time to run to the bathroom if you must or somewhere private to sigh or cry, but don’t let anyone see you. It is fine if you are quiet. You don’t have to be cheerful, you could even say you have the blues if someone asks, but brush it off and say its no big deal, just craziness at home and it will pass. Unless you work in some area that requires a lot of human interaction and cheerfulness, you will be judged on your work product. A pleasant and professional demeanor is all that is required. You do not have to be the ‘life of the office.’

Thank you so much for your note. That is my main goal. I am very private. I dont share my personal life with anyone at work. I dont have anyone there I can trust with so. I try very hard to keep professional always, focus on my daily tasks. Yes my depression over the years has worsen. I am still here alive so I guess I havent given up

Anonymous wrote:
First or all I applaud you for your desire to practice Professional Detachment. Too often today people unload all their personal information onto colleagues at work. It is highly unprofessional and distracting. Perhaps a close colleague at work that you absolutely trust you might confide certain things to, but in most instances it is absolutely appropriate to withhold everything about your private life from those with whom you work. A professional colleague will know this and respect it.

I once worked for a man for 4 years and did not know the name of his wife or child or the fact that his wife even gave birth to a second child during the course of our work relationship. I only knew he was married from his ring and a photograph on his bookshelf. This may sound extreme, but in hindsight, it kept us focussed on work. His life was private, it had no impact on our business, and therefore was not a topic of conversation.

Likewise I worked with a colleague once who was moody. When something bad happened in their life they became grumpy at work and it had a negative impact on our work environment. Everyone knew about his travails and problems and he eventually was overlooked for a promotion.

So again, your instincts are absolutely correct. Deep depression is hard to mask, but try first of all to stay focussed and busy at work. Smile, be unfailingly polite. Find time to run to the bathroom if you must or somewhere private to sigh or cry, but don’t let anyone see you. It is fine if you are quiet. You don’t have to be cheerful, you could even say you have the blues if someone asks, but brush it off and say its no big deal, just craziness at home and it will pass. Unless you work in some area that requires a lot of human interaction and cheerfulness, you will be judged on your work product. A pleasant and professional demeanor is all that is required. You do not have to be the ‘life of the office.’

Anonymous wrote:
You are correct - I got to work harder to get better P.S the holiday season is killing me my friend. I have 31 days to go -

agaperoot wrote:
Yes it is true it doesn’t hide very well after a while you have to deal with it or it deals with you. Then you can’t always find the perfect time to deal with it, but it will show up and you will have to do something to help yourself at that point.
Sorry :( You can overcome it, just start looking into it more.

Hey I know how that feels, it is really hard and people who do not understand what that feels like can never understand it. Hang in there :) this too shall pass, I am so glad that you came on here to talk about it at least. There is a huge stigma attached to it which makes it that much harder to to address. I know I tried to be hard core tough and not do anything about it but hide it from others, but when a few to many things land on your plate at one time, look out something has to give you know what I am saying.

Thanks for this. Yes you are correct. I feel I have made some progress but its takes long time to see it . I am still here, fighting :-)(sorry fake smile for now)

agaperoot wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are correct - I got to work harder to get better P.S the holiday season is killing me my friend. I have 31 days to go -

agaperoot wrote:
Yes it is true it doesn’t hide very well after a while you have to deal with it or it deals with you. Then you can’t always find the perfect time to deal with it, but it will show up and you will have to do something to help yourself at that point.
Sorry :( You can overcome it, just start looking into it more.

Hey I know how that feels, it is really hard and people who do not understand what that feels like can never understand it. Hang in there :) this too shall pass, I am so glad that you came on here to talk about it at least. There is a huge stigma attached to it which makes it that much harder to to address. I know I tried to be hard core tough and not do anything about it but hide it from others, but when a few to many things land on your plate at one time, look out something has to give you know what I am saying.

Anonymous wrote:
Thanks for this. Yes you are correct. I feel I have made some progress but its takes long time to see it . I am still here, fighting :-)(sorry fake smile for now)

agaperoot wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are correct - I got to work harder to get better P.S the holiday season is killing me my friend. I have 31 days to go -

agaperoot wrote:
Yes it is true it doesn’t hide very well after a while you have to deal with it or it deals with you. Then you can’t always find the perfect time to deal with it, but it will show up and you will have to do something to help yourself at that point.
Sorry :( You can overcome it, just start looking into it more.

Hey I know how that feels, it is really hard and people who do not understand what that feels like can never understand it. Hang in there :) this too shall pass, I am so glad that you came on here to talk about it at least. There is a huge stigma attached to it which makes it that much harder to to address. I know I tried to be hard core tough and not do anything about it but hide it from others, but when a few to many things land on your plate at one time, look out something has to give you know what I am saying.

That’s fine you can manage for now, I just wanted to help you avoid what I went through.

I really appreciate your help - I really do okay

agaperoot wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Thanks for this. Yes you are correct. I feel I have made some progress but its takes long time to see it . I am still here, fighting :-)(sorry fake smile for now)

agaperoot wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are correct - I got to work harder to get better P.S the holiday season is killing me my friend. I have 31 days to go -

agaperoot wrote:
Yes it is true it doesn’t hide very well after a while you have to deal with it or it deals with you. Then you can’t always find the perfect time to deal with it, but it will show up and you will have to do something to help yourself at that point.
Sorry :( You can overcome it, just start looking into it more.

Hey I know how that feels, it is really hard and people who do not understand what that feels like can never understand it. Hang in there :) this too shall pass, I am so glad that you came on here to talk about it at least. There is a huge stigma attached to it which makes it that much harder to to address. I know I tried to be hard core tough and not do anything about it but hide it from others, but when a few to many things land on your plate at one time, look out something has to give you know what I am saying.

That’s fine you can manage for now, I just wanted to help you avoid what I went through.

Anonymous wrote:
I really appreciate your help - I really do okay

agaperoot wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Thanks for this. Yes you are correct. I feel I have made some progress but its takes long time to see it . I am still here, fighting :-)(sorry fake smile for now)

agaperoot wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You are correct - I got to work harder to get better P.S the holiday season is killing me my friend. I have 31 days to go -

agaperoot wrote:
Yes it is true it doesn’t hide very well after a while you have to deal with it or it deals with you. Then you can’t always find the perfect time to deal with it, but it will show up and you will have to do something to help yourself at that point.
Sorry :( You can overcome it, just start looking into it more.

Hey I know how that feels, it is really hard and people who do not understand what that feels like can never understand it. Hang in there :) this too shall pass, I am so glad that you came on here to talk about it at least. There is a huge stigma attached to it which makes it that much harder to to address. I know I tried to be hard core tough and not do anything about it but hide it from others, but when a few to many things land on your plate at one time, look out something has to give you know what I am saying.

That’s fine you can manage for now, I just wanted to help you avoid what I went through.

Good :) Anytime