Love help: I’m in love with someone, We’ve been together for a year. - Help.com

“I’m too paranoid, he’s quite mean to me, depressed easily, I’m never happy, losing weight, losing sleep.” He is the only thing keeping me happy? What do you think you should do?

Well I am in kind of the oppisite situation. But I will offer the advice I was given when I was in your situation, long ago. First off this isn;t good. “he’s the only thing keeping me happy” You absolutely need to find happiness BEFORE you find a relationship. You need to be happy with yourself, by yourself, before you should try to share happiness with another person. Second of all. “he’s really quite mean to me.” Four words should follow any woman who ever has to say this, “He doesn’t deserve you.” If he ever ever EVER hits you. LEAVE and never even so much as look back. My Mother went through that, and trust me, turn and walk away if that ever happens. The key here, with your paranoia, your depression, is to find something that makes you happy, without a man. Because if two people go into a relationship, they need to be happy with themselves before they try to make the other happy. It can be a hard thing to hear, and even harder to learn, but in the end, if you find happiness in yourself, you will be happy with our without a man. And trust me when I say this, if you think you need it, seek help for your depression. Because if you start a cycle of abusive relationships now, you will have a much MUCH harder time fixing any problems you might develop in the future. So smile, you are a wonderful person. God made you, he is with you everywhere you go, and when you need him he is there. If your not religious, you are still a good and worthwhile person. Dont ever belittle yourself into thinking your not. Okay? Too many people think to little of themselves already. So please, look at yourself, and realize how many good things you have going on, and all the good traits you have. Its hard, but they’re there. Trust me. ;)

Beccabi: Did that wonderful advise impress you enough to act on it?

No, thank you for giving me the chance to help you. Its too often people overlook how wonderful they are, because society tells them theyre too fat, theyre hair isnt the right color, their boobs are too small, their yadda yadda. The truth is, they are the sick ones. Be who you are, cause you were made to be that way. Not someone elses way. You are beautiful, so long as you have a good heart, and try. And if you are a good person, no defect of physical character, no burn mark, and no person can EVER take that kind of wonder away from you. So keep that, always. Dont let the world, or one stupid [censored], turn you.

Sorry, one stupid guy. I put a bad word on there . . . >.>

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