Love help: …where to begin… there’s a lot to my story, - Help.com

Time to be honest with yourself and him. He needs to know how u truely feel. At least u will have no regrets.
He is not a mind reader he may think u dont really care that much 4 him.
Stop assuming what he wants, stop assuming his thoughts. Lay your cards on the table.
He will leave but u may make it more easier for him to come home to u if he knows how u feel.
It is absoultly fine to get in touch with him if u r close.
Dont sleep with him! btw..
Goodluck.
Better u know and he knows, than wishing u said something…

I skipped the post, can you summarize it?

Does he know you exist? If not you are fooling yourself

thanks for replying. I know I do need to be honest… but now or when he comes back.. no I won’t sleep with him don’t worry. I just know when he leaves half way through next year I won’t see him for a very long time if ever. I don’t see him coming back.. I don’t know how to even tell him how I feel. But you are very right.

Your gonna have to tell him, you don’t get many second chances in life. You seem like you realize that. Just tell him how you feel, maybe something like “Look, were friends and thats whats most important to me above all but i wanted to let you know i do care about you and i have some feelings and i wanted to let you know before you left” that way even if he doesnt feel the same way, you still remain friends and it doesn’t effect your future (working with him etc)

you gotta try because if you don’t, you will Alwaays wonder what if.

hope this helps and good luck!

I would hint at the fact u will miss him and flirt to the point he has a fair idea u r into him now, and if he acts real friendly when he returns in a few weeks u can lay all cards on the table then.

He may meet someone while hes away especially if he goes overseas to where he will be like a novelty. At least if he knows u r into him he can choose knowing what he will loosing, and then u can truely move on.

@anon he definitely knows I exist. In short.. We both seem to be attracted to eachother but neither of us will talk about it, especially me and I just found out he’s going overseas, probably permanently in a few months. But he’s going on holidays for a few weeks in a few days and feel like I should tell him but got no idea how to and wonder if I should…

@amelia/braad Both of those seem like good ideas. Although like telling him how I feel, I want to do that face to face and I know he’s busy up until he goes away… not sure if I’ll even be able to see him and just giving him the impression I like him does seem a lot easier….. I know a lot could happen between now and when he gets back.. thankyou for your advice :)

goodluck! I the hill seems to high.. just aim for half way and see how it goes..

Thankyou.. guess I aimed for half way… and am hoping for the best. Now I guess I’ve got 4 months to try and work something out.

lol.
Did he react any differently toward u? When u flirted a little?
Why is he going to work overseas?

I am sure u r sensible but always remember it is dangerous and misleading for ones emotions when we visualise/daydream about someone. We make them into something more idealistic than reality.

Well.. he really acts like he likes me. I guess he was in a better mood when I saw him last, not to mention it was only a couple days before he was leaving for his holiday. He really didn’t seem to want me to leave.

He’s going in a few months time for a long time because he’s the kind of person who loves his freedom and likes to get away from things. He likes unpredictability and doesn’t like being tied down. He loves travelling, but he told me he wanted a huge change in his life and wants to go over there to try and make it with his music. It’s a much better market than here. I get the impression he doesn’t really know what he wants though.

Yeah.. I know he’s not perfect and I like him for him. And I can think of a thousand scenarios where this situation ends badly, but I can’t let that get in the way, because I’ve honestly never felt like this about anyone before. It’s pointless for me to even try telling myself I don’t feel what I feel. I think it’s too late for my emotional well being now. It would be much worse if I just walked away from this. Well enough rambling from me.

obstacles are those things you see when you take your eyes off the goal. Good luck and never ask what if :D

I hope your are imprinted in his mind and heart hun, and he misses u and comes home.

Where is he going to? Do u like traveling? Any chance u could visit him at some stage?

I really hope this situation has a happy ending, always have a safety net hun. Get your life sorted and make it so he isnt the only thing u think about.
Goodluck!

Thankyou.. I have a problem with thinking about what if way too much.

I do like travelling. I could visit him, he’s going to the UK. It’s just a complicated situation.. I don’t want to have to end up having to choose between the right thing to do and what makes me happy.. Guess that’s life.

I do have other things to think about, things I want to achieve.. I would love a happy ending involving him though. Life goes on whatever happens I suppose.