school help: My boyfriend of 2+ years is going to school in another state and he and his roommate are bored all of the time when they arent in school. - Help.com

I’m not so good at this stuff. Maybe you should tell his parents. Or talk to him about it. If your boyfriend really truely loves you. Then he should understand what you say. But be calm and understanding. I’m sorry if it isn’t good advice but you should atleast try because somewhere inside him is the guy that loves you too.

I had the same issue in reverse. My girlfriend got into weed and later other things…I spent months talking to friends and counsellors about it and eventually told her parents. Well….Everybody was pissed off at me. Parents for not telling them early. My girlfriend for telling them… Anyway, it changed nothing, except that the relationship eventually petered out under the pressures. Here’s the sad news. If someone wants to smoke or drink or take other drugs there is only one person who can make them stop. the victim him/herself. It is a personal decision.

My advice based on the little I know….Tell him if he does not want to change back to the person you loved once, you’re moving on. If this does not motivat him to change, you’re better off leaving him behind. This is the hard answer that few people will give you.