Q: My friend is mad at me for a bad reason, and I don’t know what to do, help?
(In this story, I’m gonna call my friend ‘Sally’, but that’s not her real name)
Sally gets temper tantrums at me a lot, and they’re always for pretty stupid reasons, but she eventually forgives me. When she gets these tantrums she usually gives me the cold shoulder, ignores me, and runs away when I’m just like 10 feet behind her. But today I got her mad and I think she’s really mad at me because when I tried to apologize she told me: “Go away, I never want to talk to you again.” and left. That’s never happened before.
Today, I called her over to my table to tell her something about my other friend, but then my other friend told me that she didn’t want me to tell. So when Sally came over to my table, I didn’t know that she was there because she was standing behind me and I couldn’t see her. So I just continued to read my book. Then my teacher tells her a little loudly: “Go sit down, that’s not your group.” Then for the rest of the class time (which was about 20 minutes) she ignores me. I didn’t know that she was mad at me so I kept trying to talk to her.
Then when the bell rang I went to get my backpack and I asked my other friend if Sally was mad at me and she said yes. I asked her why and she said because I got Sally in trouble. But I think that’s a pretty bad reason! The teacher didn’t really even yell at her! Plus she’s got me in worse trouble before, and I never get mad at her. And today she didn’t even really get in trouble!
So after school my other friend and Sally had to go to chorus. I’m not in chorus, but I followed them because I wanted to try to apologize to Sally (again). Once we get to the cafeteria, we wait there until chorus started at 3:00. During that time, I was just standing around awkwardly because I didn’t know how to apologize to her. I already tried to apologize to her like 5 times in class before the bell rang, but she always ignored me and just walked away. I was just standing around and talking to my other friend and laughing at Sally’s jokes, when she suddenly looked at me with a mean face and said: “Why are you even here?” Then I said because I’m trying to apologize. Then she looks at me mean again and says: “Whatever.” and rolls her eyes. That got me really mad because she always gets mad at me for stupid reasons! And she always does really worse things to me that I should get mad about, but I don’t, because I wanted to keep the friendship between us. So then I said: “Why do you always have these random temper tantrums with me?” Then she rolls her eyes AGAIN and says: “Whatever, I never wanna talk to you again.” then she leaves.
I really don’t know what to do, because Sally seems really mad. I kind of want to be her friend again, but I hate these temper tantrums that she always has! And sure, she can be mad at me, but does she really have to be mean to me and always roll her eyes when I try to apologize?
I’m not sure if I want to be her friend anymore because she always gets mad at me and it makes me feel really sad. Should I still be her friend? If so, how can I get her to stop being mad at me?
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