life help: you and your mother dont get along….have fallen out big - Help.com

This is a good question. I haven’t spoken to my mom in over two and a half years since I took custody of my little sister (13) away from her over abuse issues. As an adult now, (33) I can stand up to my mom, but as soon as I did, it changed our relationship drastically. This has happened in the past one other time where she didn’t contact me for three years. The thing is…this is your mom. As much as you might not like her actions (same goes for me and my mom) I would at least have ’some’ type of relationship. If it was abusive as in your case, and if you’re still a minor, I wouldn’t let the relationship go past the phone or monitored visits.
In my case, I just had my third baby a year ago and my mom doesn’t even know I had her…the sad thing is, every girls wants her mom close by when she’s is in such as way (pregnant) and I didn’t have that. I am still upset about it, but would never leave my kids alone with her if we did start talking again and any visits to see her would be monitored.

I would call her back but be cautious and keep things veeeeery simple.
Take care and good luck kiddo.

I would call her back and give her a chance. She is your mother, but its possible she may have changed. If you feel a relationship is possible, then go slow and meet her halfway. If you don’t feel it’ll work, then as hard as it may be, you may have to shut the door there if its going to hurt you and mess up your life. At least you know you tried, and though that may not be comforting, at least YOU didn’t shut her out. I’m no expert and don’t pretend to be, but this is how I would do it if it were me. Good luck and God Bless You.