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I am not in love with my boyfriend anymore, but I don’t want to break his heart/ crush his self-esteem.
-want to break up BUT
-we are in the same university program and are in the same classes for the next FOUR YEARS!!! This is the main issue!
We are still very young, both 18 and have been together for about 3 years now. He is a wonderful, funny, and caring guy but I just don’t feel the same way about him anymore. I know I have to break it off with him or I will only continue to hurt myself and hurt him with my ‘ungirlfriendlike’ treatment of him, but its more complicated than that.
We are both in the same university, in the same program, all the same classes. Before anyone tells me ‘YOU SHOULDNT HAVE FOLLOWED UR BOYFRIEND INTO SAME PROGRAM LOL’ I want to say that my decision was COMPLETELY NOT based on him going there, I had just decided that’s where I wanted to go and he happened to choose the same program too, and he hadn’t even known that’s where I had decided on going.
If I break up with him, it will be AWFUL because we only live a few blocks away from eachother and bump into eachother all the time. Not to mention he is in ALL of my classes, and we hang out with the same group of friends at school. I know he will take this VERY badly and he will be devastated and he will not give up trying to get me back (at least for a while until he realizes that I’m serious). He is already VERY depressed because of his really unsupportive and emotionally bullying parents, not to mention the fact that he only got into one program (the one we are in now) when he applied to so many others that he actually wanted, but didn’t get accepted to any of them either. He is having a sort of crisis and thinks he is no good and constantly tells me that I am the only good part of his life right now.
I can’t bring myself to leave him… no matter how nicely I do it he will be DEVASTATED I know this for sure… when I tried talking about it before he just said “Dont talk like that I knew from the moment I met you that you were my soulmate and we would be together forever” and then I feel AWFUL so I didn’t continue to the big punchline of ‘I WANT TO BREAK UP’… well id put it nicer but you know what I mean.
If we weren’t in the same uni program I would be able to do it… I feel AWFUL about stringing him along though… HELP! Please, someone give me some advice :(
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