Relationships help: How do you know when to just give up?

livieee

How do you know when to just give up?

there is this boy that everytime we party together we make out etc etc. this has been going on for almost a year now and i have really started to like him. he goes to school three hours from me, so i don’t see him a whole lot. but i really feel like i have fallen for him

only problem is. everytime he gets drunk not with me, there is always another girl right there. he claims and his friends claim he hates that he is like that. and he has told me he is very indecisive but that really doesn’t help on my end

i recently just spilled my feelings for him, he had to had known it was coming sometime soon. well just today after another night of drunkeness together i really pushed the topic. he told me he likes me but not in a romantic way. but we have never hung out sober or like one on one due to how far away he goes to school at. this to me is very confusing. and i just don’t even know if i should give up or not.

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 3 months ago (2 minutes after post)

we don’t, but everytime he comes home from school we always are together at parties

and we are 18 and 19

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3 years, 3 months ago (5 minutes after post)

well I could be wrong but you just said how awkward it is to see him. Does it actually make any sense for you to go out?

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 3 months ago (11 minutes after post)

its not awkward at all.

and its hard because everytime i get to the party he is already drunk.
and we talked through text but that like means nothing and can be taken so many different ways

and i forgot to add that he gets jealous/ mad when i go to hang out with somebody else. like i can’t wait around forever. but this guy means so much to me. i would do like anything for him. i’ve known him of 6 years now. and i love all of his friends.

he said yes i like you but romantically love you no. meaning he doesn’t have a deeper connection, its more friend like.

i just don’t even know what that means because we’ve never actually hung out sober.

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3 years, 3 months ago (15 minutes after post)

yes its a pity he wasnt more clear…
Well maybe moving on would be a good idea. Because if he meant that then thats it thats his answer, but if he only said it because I don’t know… he’s a teenage boy, maybe he’s lying to himself or maybe he’s trying to seem cool, then the only way he is going to realise that he does like you is by seeing you move on.

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 3 months ago (18 minutes after post)

i try to get away. but he knows how to get under my skin and make me want to be around him. he just does all of these cute things.

and the way his friends tell me he is indecisive and has relationship issues like trusting people and being able to get close to people makes me not want to give up.

but on the other hand i cant wait forever. :/

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3 years, 3 months ago (22 minutes after post)

well if you dont want to give up then keep trying. Then you wont regret not having done so.

But bear in mind that seeing you move on, take control of the situation instead of letting him control it, and stopping letting him just get under your skin, you’d find out how he actually felt by how he reacted

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An Unknown Location | 3 years, 3 months ago (25 minutes after post)

its so hard to move on. im sorry i feel like i just keep making up excuses. but i just introduced my friend do all of these boys and she is getting close with one of his friends. so everytime they party and she goes i go. its just hard. and i couldn’t bare to watch him make out with another girl. it would just hurt too bad.

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