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Suicide is the #1 most selfish thing ANYONE can do. Impulses are impulses, they do not last forever. Don’t do it! Think about it. Your family may noy act like they carea bout you, oh but they do. See a psychologisst, or talk to someone you trust. You went here to get help, that’s smashing! You have so much to live for, everyone does. Don’t let negativity cluod up your thoughts.
Don’t let insults get the better of you. I bet you make people so happy!!
I bet you have dreams to live up to.
Just don’t do it, it is NEVER EVER the answer.
When you’re flat on your back, the only way to look is up.

Of course I can.

For one, you know you don’t really wdant to leave and go to a world of darkness, shrouded by shadow.
Secondly, all the people around you would feel guilty about your death. They would feel responsible. Also, you would be throwing away all your chances at life as well. As long as you are here there is always a second chance.

Well to be honest why would you want to die?

There is so much in life to be enjoyed, so many pleasures, and hey if u go swallowing a load of pills you will miss out on so much,

Whats the point in being dead? you only get one life, dont spend all eternity regretting the fact you foolishly threw it away

ok i found the pills… oh god ok ok i know i shouldnt. i just feel like im too insignificant for this to matter right now, but i know in my head that thats not true.. im not myself right now. i have no solid reason to want to die. i just do. very very badly.
im a stupid person.

Can’t you just tost those pills out the window.

Anonymous wrote:
ok i found the pills… oh god ok ok i know i shouldnt. i just feel like im too insignificant for this to matter right now, but i know in my head that thats not true.. im not myself right now. i have no solid reason to want to die. i just do. very very badly.
im a stupid person.

No, you’re not stupid! I’ve had suicidal thoughts, but I always contemplated the pros and the cons. Don’t do it! Put the pills away.

their my brothers and mothers perscription pills. theyve been temping me for months now. and nobodys home so this could be so easy if i wanted it to be.

Come on now flush them pills right down the toilet, bang some of your fave music on and chill, like you said you have no reason to die, your feelin a little suicidal right now, but you will look back on this and think, ‘’it was just a phase, i’m glad i saw sense'’

Really u don’t wanna be throwing everything life has to offer away, ive been there i know

Anonymous wrote:
their my brothers and mothers perscription pills. theyve been temping me for months now. and nobodys home so this could be so easy if i wanted it to be.

Do you have a Gmail account? We could talk there. Please, I’d hate to know if you lost your life.

dm8x.co wrote:
hey there, i would love to talk to you, please give me the opportunity! do you use any kind of instant messenger?

um not really, sorry. does gmail count as an instant messanger? because i have that.

Why do you feel so desperate right now? What are you doing at the minute?

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Rαvєr❤ wrote:
Why do you feel so desperate right now? What are you doing at the minute?

opening and closing the bottles. i think im snapping out of it. i think.

AndYouAre? wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
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The email was removed, just leave out the @gmail.com part.

im sorry.. its xliveEx

Anonymous wrote:

Rαvєr❤ wrote:
Why do you feel so desperate right now? What are you doing at the minute?

opening and closing the bottles. i think im snapping out of it. i think.

AndYouAre? wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
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The email was removed, just leave out the @gmail.com part.

im sorry.. its xliveEx

Alright, sent you an email.

either kill yourself or don’t. what the hell is the point in asking people who don’t know you, to talk you out of it, when we have no background about your life?

life is life…

and death is death…

either think about your family and friends. and what life has to offer.
or don’t…..

and then make up your mind x

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You can always put off suicide. No reason to debate the subject right now.

Instead, look at the reasons you are thinking suicidally. It comes down to a pressure deep inside you that makes you think “NOTHING IS OK, I HAVE TO DO SOMETHING RIGHT NOW TO FIX IT, NOTHING WILL FIX IT, SO I HAVE TO DIE”

Right?

Let’s break that down into pieces:

1. NOTHING IS OK - well.. you are literate, self-aware, educated, kind, and you have access to the Internet. So there are lots of OK things. Plus you seem open to figuring things out.

2. I HAVE TO DO SOMETHING RIGHT NOW TO FIX IT - this is anxiety taking hold; when you are anxious you feel like you must immediately act; this is just a FEELING… doesn’t mean anything at all… it’s your brain’s warning system going off like a faulty smoke alarm… so take out the battery of that faulty smoke alarm and relax for a minute

3. NOTHING WILL FIX IT - the most common answer to any advice is “I tried and it didn’t work.” If you back away from your problems for a bit, you see that EVERYONE has faced similar issues (for me, death of wife, fired from job, business failure, severe anxiety problems, angry father, cold mother, etc etc etc) but we all find a way to cope with our anxieties eventually based on experience, reading, learning, etc. There are plenty of simple fixes out there for you.
- focus on others
- focus on being a positive influence for others (even if it’s smiling at them — it can brighten their whole day if they are feeling as crappy as you!)
- plenty of exercise, decent food, avoiding stimulants/narcotics/depressants/sugar/caffeine/etc.
- create tiny goals and PERSIST with them until you achieve them; celebrate (even if it’s doing the laundry) then move on to the next one… ALWAYS CELEBRATE EVERY TINY THING YOU DO RIGHT! Get in the habit of it!

4. SO I HAVE TO DIE - know where this comes from? when you get into the habit of giving up on things… giving up on what you want, giving up on your goals, giving up on people… then eventually the only thing left to give up on his life. But like I said… the key is to stop giving up on stuff. Make your goals smaller until they are tiny and achievable… and work your way up

Contentment is not the absence of problems… contentment is maintaining your integrity and being a positive influence for others while coping with life’s INEVITABLE challenges.

I’ve felt suicidal countless times. I lost a friend to suicide. You don’t need to continue down this road, friend. A brighter future is waiting.

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Ooopsies :(

ok thank you all for helping me. i just get really impulsive n crazy sometimes. i think im bipolar, but my mom has yet to set up the doctor aptment to find out.

AndYouAre? wrote:

candp wrote:
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It is dangerous to publicly display your email address. It is also dangerous to suggest that a suicidal person leave their post where several are trying to help them, to go to email where all responsibility is placed on your shoulders. That is not good for you, or the poster. Carol and the Mod Team

Ooopsies :(

im sorry.. i didnt know

Anonymous wrote:
ok thank you all for helping me. i just get really impulsive n crazy sometimes. i think im bipolar, but my mom has yet to set up the doctor aptment to find out.

I really doubt a diagnosis is going to help you any.

The key thing is to start placing a gap between feeling something and doing something. That gap in time is something that takes practice. The way to create that gap is this: when you have that overwhelming feeling, you start your deep slow breathing. Count the breaths in and out if it helps. Once you’ve got that gap, then you do some analytical thinking. Then you act.

linuxya wrote:
4. SO I HAVE TO DIE - know where this comes from? when you get into the habit of giving up on things… giving up on what you want, giving up on your goals, giving up on people… then eventually the only thing left to give up on his life. But like I said… the key is to stop giving up on stuff. Make your goals smaller until they are tiny and achievable… and work your way up

Contentment is not the absence of problems… contentment is maintaining your integrity and being a positive influence for others while coping with life’s INEVITABLE challenges.

I’ve felt suicidal countless times. I lost a friend to suicide. You don’t need to continue down this road, friend. A brighter future is waiting.

that is very true. i just forget it sometimes..

Back to normal, so you can now see why what you were planning was a bad idea now, don’t you.

Anonymous wrote:

Rαvєr❤ wrote:
Why do you feel so desperate right now? What are you doing at the minute?

opening and closing the bottles. i think im snapping out of it. i think.

Make sure you snap out of it. Do something else, what kind of things make you feel depresed in the first place?

Anonymous wrote:
ok thank you all for helping me. i just get really impulsive n crazy sometimes. i think im bipolar, but my mom has yet to set up the doctor aptment to find out.

If its got so far that you even consider suicide then now is the time to make that appointment asap. How old are you? If your 16 you can make the appointment yourself.

linuxya wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
ok thank you all for helping me. i just get really impulsive n crazy sometimes. i think im bipolar, but my mom has yet to set up the doctor aptment to find out.

I really doubt a diagnosis is going to help you any.

The key thing is to start placing a gap between feeling something and doing something. That gap in time is something that takes practice. The way to create that gap is this: when you have that overwhelming feeling, you start your deep slow breathing. Count the breaths in and out if it helps. Once you’ve got that gap, then you do some analytical thinking. Then you act.

sometimes my mind moves so fast, i dont even act upon my emotions anymore. they are just as severe as they are fleeting. in a flash theyr gone, im gone and all thats left of me is the empty numb shell ive had to allow myself to become to combat with these emotional racing thoughts in my head.. its seems as if the only action that i deliberately connect with my emotions is self harm ans suicidal attempts, which is horrible.
im insane, im sure.

Rαvєr❤ wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Rαvєr❤ wrote:
Why do you feel so desperate right now? What are you doing at the minute?

opening and closing the bottles. i think im snapping out of it. i think.

Make sure you snap out of it. Do something else, what kind of things make you feel depresed in the first place?

Anonymous wrote:
ok thank you all for helping me. i just get really impulsive n crazy sometimes. i think im bipolar, but my mom has yet to set up the doctor aptment to find out.

If its got so far that you even consider suicide then now is the time to make that appointment asap. How old are you? If your 16 you can make the appointment yourself.

every and anything. i just do sometimes. i dont know why.

but my birthday is next month. ill be 16 so i guess ill put myself on hold until then.

Anonymous wrote:

Rαvєr❤ wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Rαvєr❤ wrote:
Why do you feel so desperate right now? What are you doing at the minute?

opening and closing the bottles. i think im snapping out of it. i think.

Make sure you snap out of it. Do something else, what kind of things make you feel depresed in the first place?

Anonymous wrote:
ok thank you all for helping me. i just get really impulsive n crazy sometimes. i think im bipolar, but my mom has yet to set up the doctor aptment to find out.

If its got so far that you even consider suicide then now is the time to make that appointment asap. How old are you? If your 16 you can make the appointment yourself.

every and anything. i just do sometimes. i dont know why.

but my birthday is next month. ill be 16 so i guess ill put myself on hold until then.

Suicidal people should not be put on hold. Get your mom to make you the appointment before you feel like this again.

i have told her. she is not concerned enough to get me one right away. plus shes a grade A procrastonator. so it might never get done relying on her.
ill just wait. ive ben having suicidal thoughts since i was like 8. i can wait a few more weeks.

Neutra wrote:
Back to normal, so you can now see why what you were planning was a bad idea now, don’t you.

i wish i could see it as a bad idea.
but i have hope that i might one day. i just gotta hold on a little while longer.

Anonymous wrote:
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im insane, im sure.

No. You’re like everyone else. It just takes practice to realize that emotions lie. You have developed habits that cause you problems. Work every day on changing those habits.

STOP thinking that you = your habits. You are much more than that. You can change your habits. STOP thinking that you = emotions. Because you feel worthless doesn’t mean you are. STOP letting your emotions control you.

It’s all a matter of developing some simple coping skills. We all have to do it. You are not alone.

Well on the up side your so young that most of these feelings are most likely related to growing up. So many teens think they have bi-polar and don’t realise that a lot of their emotions and thoughts are normal. Don’t worry too much about labelling yourself. Could you go talk to a teacher or school councillor?

its not normal. its a result of whats ive seen n known n been through.. plus it runs in my family. kno i got somethin.. just think id be nice to find out what. i think i need to know.
im home schooled so i dont have a counceler. but i guess i might go back to puiblic school because i sleep and sulk around all day and dont get much work done at home.

Anonymous wrote:
its not normal. its a result of whats ive seen n known n been through.. plus it runs in my family. kno i got somethin.. just think id be nice to find out what. i think i need to know.

It doesn’t have to be genetic just because your family seems to all be freaking out. People who are overly anxious and reactive can be attracted to similar people. And when they have kids, the kids only learn what they see.

You have the power to change it for yourself.

how do i go about doing that?

Anonymous wrote:
how do i go about doing that?

Like I said, it’s all about developing coping skills. That means creating a gap between emotion and action. That means accepting emotions are just going off all the time and don’t necessarily mean anything.

We all do this. When we’re first born and we feel something we immediately cry/lash out. As we get older, we start placing a gap between our emotions and our actions.

It takes practice.

As soon as you realize you’re feeling an emotion, do deep, slow breathing and count your breaths. Keep repeating to yourself “It’s not about me, it’s just a sensation.” Wait until the feeling dies down. Then spend some time thinking up options of what to do. Then choose the best option.

At first, you will feel/react/then remember what I said. Over time with practice, you will become more and more self aware.

Just keep practising and celebrate every tiny step. Maybe your first step is not saying your whole day is ruined because something happened. Maybe your second step is persisting with something despite a failure, re-doing it and learning until you succeed.

over time, you will retrain your brain and your emotional upsets will have less and less effect on you. Eventually you’ll be giving my advice to other people.

ok… but how can i find the balance between containing/coping with my emotions and supressing them to the point where i feel numb? because honestly that worse then the depression.

Anonymous wrote:
ok… but how can i find the balance between containing/coping with my emotions and supressing them to the point where i feel numb? because honestly that worse then the depression.

Don’t repress your emotions. Go ahead and feel them. I’m saying FEEL the emotions but put a gap between feeling them and then doing something.

Depression comes from being a passive victim… everything that happens will happen TO YOU unpredictably, not according to your expectations. That’s because you are living reactively.

As soon as you start setting tiny goals and persisting until you achieve them, as soon as you start committing to doing that and keeping your promises to yourself… depression will disappear. All your mental energy will go towards overcoming the challenges.

And whenever your goals seem impossible… break them down into tinier pieces.

ahhhh wow ok i will definately try that. well thank you for talking to me. that alone helps alot :)

do you think this might help you

Anonymous wrote:
I’ve been through depression before. It led me to cut because I thought no one cared. but then I found out that the important people to me did care. so I stopped.
I think I might have been going through abit of depression again recently. I’m not sure. I know that I’ve been going through an extremely hard time. where you feel like you can hardly cope. But I feel like I can now, much better. That’s because I have a lovely boyfriend. and lovely parents. and a good friend who tries to help me out. It’s all the little good things that people do that help. even things like hugs. carrying your things for you sometimes. until you have the strenght to do it again. step by step as you get sronger as people help you.

I think the best thing to do is, not make yourself alone through it, never isolate yourself and make sure that you have someone to talk to about it. Someone you trust. Someone who can support you. They can really help you. If you feel like no one is there at all to help, then you should tell anyone, just someone random. Because at that stage you have nothing to lose. only your life. however you have to fight it and never let suicide be an option. as if it’s not possible. It’s not something you can do.think that the person’s hit rock bottom. and the only way is up.

I think that sometimes, the more free time you have, the more free time you could choose to sit and think. sometimes it’s best to keep busy to stop thinking about thngs for a while.

No matter how much you want to lie there and think and think, think some more, alot about negitive things, worries, concerns, dark thoughts, confusion, how you think you’re going mad, how you see yourself, they all makes you feel worse. The thoughts will drag you with them, they will control you, if you do not control them. I think the person needs to fight it, go out, meet people, take their mind away from it. let the people around them make them feel better. If they need to talk about it then that helps.

I know some feelings are really hard to overcome. I felt complete apathy before. I just didn’t feel anything. like I had no feelings. they’d been cut off and dissociation isn’t very nice. It’s an awful thing to go through. I’m not sure how I got rid of those feelings. But I think that taking a piece of paper and doing bullet points of everything that is bringing you down. then trying to drop them and not feel any concern about them is the best way to deal with things sometimes.or challenge them to. take the weight off your shoulders until you can handle all the small things. step by step. At the point where you feel your going to hit rock bottom, you have to react differently than you normally would. eg. you could be buttering a slice of bread and then drop it on the floor by accident. you could either shout feeling frustrated and even worse, this adds more stress on your shoulders. or you could act like it’s no big deal and just deal with it and act like it never happened. When bad things happen sometimes you have to drop them and not let them bother you.

You haven’t got to let depression take you with it. It’s a demon that has to be fought. and in hard times, you have to do whatever makes you feel even a little bit good. chocolate, music, bubble baths, even if it’s colouring in pictures from a kids colouring book. It doesn’t matter what you do. every little thing helps and it’s not stupid. Keep yourself busy. some may even recommend getting exercise to help. It doesn’t matter what you do to cope, as long as you are able to that’s all that matters. as long as you do what keeps you alive or helps you to feel better, thats what matters. and stay away from what causes the problems or makes you feel worse. even if it makes you feel even alittle bit bad. because things can build up.

Another thing to know, is that life gets alittle crazy for everyone sometimes, so don’t feel like your going mad and everyone else are getting on fine, and feeling like you’re the odd one out-which makes you feel worse. because everyone goes through bad times sometimes in their life. in times if you speak up, alot of people that you doubt could ever understand you has probably been there themselves. so they can understand and help. this might not help if a young person talks with another young person. but may, if the person speaks to someone older, because will have been through alot more and more likely to have experienced it.

when I was finding it hard to cope, things I clinged on to help, were my boyfriend.
Do you have any good friends? of a close family member? go get plenty hugs from the people around you. Just walk up to them and hug them. they feel good. and they help.

Try doing really small things, that you might even gain the tiniest fragment of contentment from. and cling on to doing what makes you feel good. What helped me was watching nice disney films. They take you away from the weights of real life. and are soothing. feel like a child again with no responsibilities. drop them all, so that you feel no pressure on your shoulders anymore. and start doing small tasks like linuxya said.doing tiny things. like do your teeth. brush your hair. play on a game for a short while. colour in. draw a picture. or even scribble on paper. write down words. try to write random positive words. simple words like, hope joy light possible can good. and when you do nice words. maybe try and write them in bubble writing. then colour them in. put music on. nice music.

also, I’ve heard that going outside in the sun, gives your body vitamin D, which helps your body pick up more seretonin, I think it’s called. That hormone is a one that helps you feel better and feel less sad. So perhaps you could try to go for a nice walk when you feel up to it.

One thing that I think may help. Take a deep breath. Does your cheast push out? does it expand? or does your tummy push out? You should try to breath, where you are using your tummy.
There is a larger surface area of lungs further down, nearer to your tummy. In your chest the space of your lungs is smaller. If you learn to breath, so that you use your tummy then you will get more oxygen into your body and you wont have to breath so fast. It helps. I hope this part makes sense. If it doesn’t, this may explain it easier
http://panicdisorder.about.com/od/liv…

also since you have been feeling this way because of all the things that have happened in your life. Try to see a cousellor or talk to someone about it. Talking helps. Express yourself to them. Don’t hold everything inside. Release thoughts to take the weights from your shoulders. But you should also try to except what has happened. I don’t know what those things are, but you cannot change the past. You have to except what has happened and try to move on.

If you started to feel this way since you were 8. There is something that must have happened around that time. If you feel that talking about it will help you then you know that we are here to listen and talk with you. That is what this site is for.

please let us know how you get on. *hugs* I hope you feel better soon.
sorry this was so long.

How are you going to benefit from dying? You’re just hurting everyone else, or if not, you’re just dying for nothing. Just think about it :) i hope u dont commit suiscide :( Everyone’s life is precious, u gotta enjoy it, after all, we only have like 80-ish/100 years to live :) Some people want to live, but dont get to because of car accidents, murders, etc. Be glad :)

I agree, think of the people who are terminally ill, that know they’re dying and have no choice,

You are so lucky to be healthy with a good chance at life, like all of us here.

Things may seem pretty bad at the minute, but you gotta see past it,

Think about it and i’m sure you will see that you should move on from this idea and be happy in life

hay kiddo, sorry for the late reply.
How are you feeling now, any better ?*hugs*

What is it today, i have not found 1 person like me throughout my entire life. and yet today this is the 4th person ive come across who is just like me!.
Hang in there, Your problem is FEAR
Get a pen and paper and start writing. don’t read it just write.
your true self will start to come out. Be strong and be Brave.
Don’t be ashamed it’s not your fault. Seek professional help. They can and will help.

update: well it turns out i have post traumatic stress disorder amoung other things. i have been on suicide watch for the last week at the hospital in the adolecent treatment unit and im really glad to get out.
they medicated me. im on the fence about how i feel about that.
but it seems like my life is turning in a better direction..