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I have a small problem.

Well depends on how you look at it. There’s this chick (strange how there always are) anyway, I have bumped into her a couple of times, I know who she is and what she does but she doesn’t know me from a bar of soap. Hence my problem, I am not the person to walk up to a stranger and start a conversation, but I want to take the change with her. Here’s the question, how do I go to her and start talking, about what, all I want to do is to go for coffee and then take things from there? ( I feel like a teenager again )

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candp offline Verified User (2 years, 12 months) Help.com Volunteer Moderator Long Term User Shouts: 146 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (3 minutes after post)

31, that’s wonderful! How about you walk up to her and say”Hi, I’m Einstein. Would you like to go get a cup of Jo?” Keep going with some interesting conversation and you should be well into a nice relaxing date. Good luck, 31! We guess you are feeling better!!!!!

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Hey candp, feeling alot better, worked thru alot of things and taking it day by day. wont she think i am weird if this guy she doesnt know walk up to her and ask her out for some coffee?

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Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (9 minutes after post)

No. We would think she thought you as weird if you didn’t! Do you know any particulars?

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (11 minutes after post)

i know her name, surename, age, thats shes single, her religion, that she doesnt drink (big bonus) i sound like a stalker, lol

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Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Nothing wrong with some research! Go, 31, go!! what’s the worst that can happen? She says NO? Her loss!!

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Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (18 minutes after post)

BTW, what did you do? Hack her computer?

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (20 minutes after post)

well i am in it so just wen looking around, plus a mate of mine works in the same office, lol

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Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (21 minutes after post)

stalker!lol

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Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (23 minutes after post)

Hey 31 we are beat. We’re heading out. Good to hear like you are getting better. G’nite. Keep us posted, man. peace.

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Parow, 11, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (55 minutes after post)

Its good to hear that you are well now, i’m glad…

Walk up to her and say hi….thats a beginning…the rest will follow…

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

lol went to her desk, shes no consalting here anymore, so ya thats that.

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Parow, 11, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

Well don’t give up, find out where she is and take it from there…

There is nothing stopping you from trying…so use your stalking skills, hehe

Don’t ever give up on the chance of happiness, you will regret it forever…

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (2 hours, 26 minutes after post)

i dont tend to, so ya, got her no, and have made a plan and its in action so we will see.

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Parow, 11, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (2 hours, 54 minutes after post)

Kwl…Good luck hey….Hope it works out.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (6 hours, 55 minutes after post)

hello!

The gentleman that I met last year saw me at a gas station getting gas,He was on his way to a christams party and he turned to me real nervous but still forced himself to chat with me …….He said Hello my name is Ron I just wanted to tell you, your beautiful…..I look around like it was a joke and asked him where the camera is,he said no camera and then asked me if I would join him for a glass of wine……Well I said sure I would love that,so I told him I would follow him in my car so off we went ……As the story goes I’m still dating him today!
If I would of never said yes …..chances of us meeting again were slim…..We have passion for many of the same things and we feel this is a great person ……its been over a year and this man had no intentions of dating for long peroids of time!
Well he stop me in my tracks and I stop im in his tracks!

Don’t worry about the rejection……its more the fear!
Just do it!

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (7 hours, 28 minutes after post)

Always start by asking questions, girls love questions.

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Eagle Harbour, BC, CA | 2 years, 10 months ago (11 hours, 45 minutes after post)

How about start by sending her some flowers, from a secret admirer! Then send her another a couple of days later with your phone number and a small box of chocolate. :] She won’t be able to resist, he he

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Johannesburg, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (21 hours, 10 minutes after post)

So its over with you and your fiance’?

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (21 hours, 27 minutes after post)

HEy eskimo, yes, treid and treid but it cant come from one way any more, she didnt even botha while i was in hospital, so ya, just goes to show,

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Johannesburg, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (21 hours, 44 minutes after post)

Damn man…Sorry

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (22 hours, 9 minutes after post)

honestly i think that going to the hosp was the best thing that could happen, you find out who really cares and da fake ones are, everything i kept to myself for year broke me, and i was able to work thru everything while i was in the hospital, i can start with anew from now, and thats what i am doing..

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

update time….

About this chick, after a “process” I found her cell no, but didn’t want to call, coz ya, then, as heaven sent, one of my old colleagues came to say hi at the office, started chatting and as if by magic they know each other and well, to make a long story short, the chick will be back at office on Monday (she is still on leave) and then she said that we must get in contact to arrange to get together and go for coffee, so yippy.

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Parow, 11, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

Thats kwl Ein….i’m happy for you…Hope eveything goes smoothly from here on for you…

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Fort Collins, CO, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 day, 9 hours after post)

Post a replyYeah Einsteing!!! Let us know how it goes!

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 20 hours after post)

Well i asked her out for coffee…… she responded well, she said that she would really like to but feels that I wont be fare to me for she still has feelings for her x and that maybe we shouldn’t… I can understand where she comes from but, my question to you now, should I just leave it there, or should I phone her back and say that I don’t want to impose on her feeling or on anyone, I would just really like to take her out for coffee, no strings attached, I would just like to get to know her better for the worst that could happen is that we both end up with a new friend. I am leaning towards phoning her again, what would you say?

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Fort Collins, CO, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 20 hours after post)

I think phoning her and saying that is a great idea!

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 20 hours after post)

i really like her and she is a wonderful person, we got allot in common, she is very religious (big plus) she doesn’t drink ( even bigger plus). I just don’t see why not… what do you think about what she said, do you think that it was the truth or just a very Polite way of say your bugging me go away or try harder stupid

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Fort Collins, CO, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 20 hours after post)

I would guess it was the truth, but you’ll never know unless you see what she says when you call.

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 20 hours after post)

thats true. i will be phoning her then in 2 hours or so.. will update the post again later. but other wise, how ou KDC?

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Fort Collins, CO, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 20 hours after post)

I’m good, Einstein, hanging out in the chat room. Come join us.

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Parow, 11, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 20 hours after post)

Phone her, don’t let go of something that could be great…

“Nothing ventured, nothing gained”

You surely don’t want to spend your life giving up on the things you want and later regreting or wondering if it would have worked out.

Nothing is worse then letting go of something/someone you truly want to be with.

Go for it!

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 21 hours after post)

taken from what you said “You surely don’t want to spend your life giving up on the things you want and later regreting or wondering if it would have worked out.

Nothing is worse then letting go of something/someone you truly want to be with.”

have you ever?

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Parow, 11, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 21 hours after post)

yes i have.

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 21 hours after post)

and what happend if you dont mind me asking?

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Eagle Harbour, BC, CA | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 21 hours after post)

Phone her, become friends, and maybe she will forget her x and you will be there for her. Good Luck!
:]

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 21 hours after post)

thanx papa..

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Parow, 11, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 21 hours after post)

Nothing happened.

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Eagle Harbour, BC, CA | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 days, 21 hours after post)

You might want to do something with your hair tho!
Lol

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (6 days, 2 hours after post)

I agree just walk up to her and say Hi, I’m &%$*5, can i buy you a cup of coffee? It doesnt have to funny or intelligent, the fact that your being real will impress her.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (6 days, 2 hours after post)

okay so i’m a bit slow, did you hone her again? what did she say?

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Bryanston, 06, ZA | 2 years, 10 months ago (6 days, 2 hours after post)

havnt had time yet today, will be phoning her tomorrow tho, things just got out of hand today, had one of those days if you know what i mean…

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