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How do you know when your depressed and need help?
I have really good days when I’m strong and feel like life is okay, and then I drop drastically and feel like there is no point on earth, How can I make it so everyday is atleast okay?
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being depressed doesnt mean you feel down all the time, i suffer depression myself and know how hard it can be on those low days.
my advise is go and talk to your doctor there are many options for you here.
it took me a very long time before i plucked up the courage to ask for help and in the meantime i lost some of the most important people in my life so i really think you should get help asap.
remember just because you have a few good days doesnt mean you are over it , recovering from depression takes time.
as for what the doctors can do for you, you can go on antidepressants there are lots of different types, alternativly you can be reffered to a counseler or a psychotherapist.
keep smiling you will feel better :)
But how do you know when you are depressed? Isn’t it normal to have bad days. Is it normal to think about death when you have low days? I dont really want to be on antidepressants, besdies the fact I dont like taking tablets my family would think I was going crazy or something, I hide every sad emotion, and dont let anyone know when I feel bad, my family and friends think I’m 100% happy with life. I put on a brave face so they say, I dont know, I know I’m happy with aspects of my life, but not everything, but who is? I dont know whether I’m just being stupid when I think about dying. Because I honestly have so much in life that other people would only dream of. I really am so lucky you know and I feel I dont appreciate it when I have my low days, I just dont know why!
What you describe is that you are wearing a mask hoping the mask will become who you really are.
During low days, death is not far from the mind.
You can choose to measure your high and your low days over the next month to figure out which you are having more of.
One does not need to be happy all the time. While it is a desire it is also hard to sustain.
If you have more low days than high days then first seek to reach a balance. Then seek to have a bias more to the high days.
Patience, Clarity, Prosperity.
That is a fantastic idea! I will try that, but how do you reach a balance, when you cant help feeling the way you do?
Reach a balance by following the path of patience, clarity and prosperity.
Patience to calm the spirit. Patience also means to endure as the choices made on your behalf up to this point need to run their course. When you feel low, recognize it. Try to calm yourself, take several deep breaths and ask yourself why am I feeling low? The answer may come quicly or you may have to wait for a sign. The answer may also surprise you. When you are feeling up or happy, recognize it. Ask yourself why am I happy?
With patience comes clarity. Clarity over choices and their affects. Clarity to know when you feel low and taking action to do something to feel better. For instance if when you feel low, you might recognize you feel low because you are watching the television news and becoming more depressed by it. You can then recognize the choice and its affect and you can choose to turn it off for a while and do something that makes you happy like listening to your favorite uplifting song. These connections you make can be external influence as well as internal influences.
Over time patience and clarity lead to prosperity.
You have really opened my mind ! Thank you so much, I will try this. Just by reading this I have realised that I am the one that is in control of how I feel, and I need to recognise it. I’m not saying I’m going to absoloutely happy all the time, but you have helped me a great deal with your words, thank you so much!
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i dont know but try your best or you will die like my uncle did so cmon cheer up now or else u know im depressed to i know how u feel
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