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She wanted you to ask her out. Or maybe she was just seeing if you have a girlfriend.

It sounds like she was trying to get you to hang out with her. As she’s shy, she probably won’t try again, so you’re probably going to have to ask her out/ask her if she’d like to hang out.

Best of Luck

Sir Urgdu

She was either making small talk or hinting. One way to find out.

I’m not shy, but I’m quiet. It kind of sounds like she wants something to happen, but I’m only hearing one side of the story.

Be the man in this story, and ask her if she wants to get coffee, or better yet make an excuse, like you need her help, or want to ask her a couple questions about the course so far. It will get her to agree to it, and kind of make her feel more confident.

That way it’s not a date, because the word date is scary for girl’s who aren’t used to that kind of thing. It’s just coffee with a friend. She’ll pick up on your hints quickly, even if you think she’s oblivious. She’s shy not stupid, if she wants something to happen, she’ll probably return it in a very subtle way.

Thanks everyone i appreciate the input.
Violet: Good point. I think it’s probably pretty clear from my answer that i don’t have a girlfriend, i hope so anyway. I could possibly take from her answer too that sh doesn’t have a boyfriend.

Sir Urgdu: Good point as well. My cousin said as well that as she is shy she probably won’t be doing any more asking. Which is okay. I am just hoping she doesn’t feel rejected from my response. I am pretty shy too and i’d hope that she might take that into account.

Guess: True you’re only hearing my side of the story which makes it more difficult. I figured actually that i can do both those things (coffee and asking for help about course). I was going to do a photocopy of the revision sheet for a test we have next week, the girl wasn’t in class Thurs to get the sheet. I figure i ask her if she would like to get a coffee and we can collaborate on some revising (seeing as by the time i give her the photocopy of the revision list the test will only be 2 days away).

At first i was ’surely she was just making conversation’ but the more i think about it the more it did seem like a sort of hint or something. After all she is shy and it’s not like we really know each other yet or anything. It probably took her a lot of guts to ask me that question. So i am determined to cast away the timid shy self and ask her if she wants to get some coffee.

Thanks again all :)

When a girl asks what you are doing it usually means you are getting laid… man did you blow it. Next time you see her ask her what she is doing. When she says nothing ask her if she wants to go get something to eat, or go to a movie, or go bowling, or does she want to get naked and play tag or just anything.

Don’t walk away look her in the eye and smile. Look her up and down. Tell her you want her without saying a word and ask her out. Make yourself do it you will thank me I promise. I especially like the naked tag suggestion… what you never expect to work often does.

I dunno man, she doesn’t seem like the kind of girl at all who would jump into bed with someone. I want a relationship anyway. But i totally get what you’re saying overall, be confident. I will be saying that to myself like a Mantra on Tuesday ‘be confident, be confident, be confident..’ :). Thanks.

It’s the quiet girls that surprise you. Mention naked tag as a joke while asking them out and just see if one of them doesn’t say “I thought we were playing naked tag” about half way into the date. Been there done that.

I’ll give it some consideration. Can’t promise anything though, i might end up being too chickens*** to shove the naked tag thing in there :P