Love help: Alright, here’s the situation, I have gone out with the - Help.com

Do not change who you are- if she does not love or feel for you as you are- then she will not love/feel for you, she will fall for someone you are pretending to be. You deserve someone who is going to want to be with you for who you are, as cliche as it is, there is no good that comes from a relationship that is born from pretending to be a different kind of person. You can only avoid being yourself for so long, and chances are that in due time, she would see past the facade and leave again.

Sounds way to confusing. All this he said she said, just talk to the girl.

My questions is, if this girl has dumped you twice, why are you so willing to go back into a relationship with her knowing the chance exists you’ll get dumped a third time? I say that cuz it seems like her rules for the relationship with you is be who she wants you to be or else there won’t be a relationship. I say be yourself and be proud of who you are. How can a person truly love you and care about you if you aren’t real, if you aren’t yourself. I don’t want a guy who pretends to be someone or something he’s not. I want a guy who is what he is in his heart and proud of who he is.

Unfortunately, the phrase “nice guys finish last” is sometimes true when it comes to relationships. Girls like to be pursued, to feel like that they are worth fighting for, to be worth rescuing, to be captivating.

If you want to keep her, make sure that you convey these things to her once you are back together. Be careful that this isn’t the whole point for her. You don’t want to play the game and then get burned again when she dumps you (as has happened before.) In other words, make sure that there is more to the relationship than playing hard to get, and then letting you succeed, and then she gets bored with you and leaves.

That said, you shouldn’t change who you are to make it work. The point is not to be a puppy, but a man.