should i bother to pretty myself up? - Help.com

Well, dressing up feminine can make you feel a lot more confident. Looking good usually relates to feeling good. Go on a shopping spree, go to a salon, get a make over, have them do your hair, eyebrows, get your nails done, put on some make-up, work out. I don’t find myself to be the most attractive girl in the world, but when I get all dolled up like that I feel really pretty.

Dear Anonymous,
You are beautiful and you don’t need people telling you that. Everyone is beautiful and so are you i don’t need to look at your face to say that because people don’t care about how u look from the outside they care about YOU and your personality. If you want to wear fancy clothes wear em! Do what ever you feel good in. If your worried about what people are going to say, its just your fear don’t let it come in the way. If you want to wear that zebra top wear it! But remember i don’t think it matters if u wear black t-shirts or designer tops, it’s what YOU want not others. Just because you are shy doesn’t mean you cant dress up a bit too.

Haha, you sound so much like me…when I was 16.
I was so incredibly self concious, and so stuck on the wearing the same thing, because I hated the girls that primped themselves up - just to get attention, especially from the boys.

Now, 4 years later, I like wearing feminine clothes, like dresses and stuff - because I AM a girl…and it makes me feel nice, to always look nice, and to look like I care for myself.

BUT…that said, I never spend stacks of money on clothes…I like 2nd hand stuff, and I know that may seem grotty…but really, it is not. I get commented so much on my clothes its not funny ! And its even better when I say “Geez, thanks…it was $2″…

I think the idea is to find who you are. I have learnt that as much as I hate it, first impressions do count for alot. So, if you are always wearing the same clothes, people might develop ideas about you - as stupid as that is…

I just think you should wear what you feel like wearing, comfortable, cheap and cute.

For what its worth… =)

Anonymous wrote:
Well, dressing up feminine can make you feel a lot more confident. Looking good usually relates to feeling good. Go on a shopping spree, go to a salon, get a make over, have them do your hair, eyebrows, get your nails done, put on some make-up, work out. I don’t find myself to be the most attractive girl in the world, but when I get all dolled up like that I feel really pretty.

yes, i have treated myself to stuff like that. and its a lot of fun! but the problem is i know that no matter how much make up i have on or how great my hair looks or how hot my cloths are… i still look like me which is a really embarresing way to look. i hate to say that about something God created but… He wasn’t trying with me… lmao.

I got whistled at today! I didn’t think humans still did that.

I’d wear my PJs everywhere if I could.
I was actually thinking about that this morning; I was filling up petrol on the way to work and I went in to pay and the guy got all excited and friendly.
But when I go there looking like sh*t it’s usually just a dry “anything else?”
I find it annoying, but I mean I still like looking good.
I don’t wear too much makeup, just the natural sort of look. I think anything over done looks bad, and it also depends on the occasion. Mascara works wonders though.
Good clothes and a good hair cut that suits you change everything.
I’m obsessed with scarfs.

I don’t think I answered any of your post.
you shouldn’t do it for other people, you should do it for you; to feel better about yourself. a good make over always boost your self esteem.
You project the way you feel about yourself to other people, if you’re confident and comfortable in your own skin, that’s what people will see.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Well, dressing up feminine can make you feel a lot more confident. Looking good usually relates to feeling good. Go on a shopping spree, go to a salon, get a make over, have them do your hair, eyebrows, get your nails done, put on some make-up, work out. I don’t find myself to be the most attractive girl in the world, but when I get all dolled up like that I feel really pretty.

yes, i have treated myself to stuff like that. and its a lot of fun! but the problem is i know that no matter how much make up i have on or how great my hair looks or how hot my cloths are… i still look like me which is a really embarresing way to look. i hate to say that about something God created but… He wasn’t trying with me… lmao.

Keep in mind that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You may find yourself unattractive, but that does not mean that whole world does. I’ve met many people that claim they’re hideous, but I find them beautiful. There’s beauty in everyone if you look closely enough.

there’s a solution for everything, except death! i kind’a agree w/ you about being a bulldog and not being able to change it no matter what you wear. but, again there’s a solution. if you really have horrible acne, there’s meds you can get that will at least tone it down some. if you have scaring there’s creams/procedures etc you can do to lighten them a little. if you’re fat you can loose the weight, etc. i agree w/ everyone saying to do what feels good, as in wear what you want to wear and get make up if that’s who you are. it does help a lot, specially your self confidence no matter how you look. i’m working on myself as well. good luck!

How old are you if you don’t mind me asking??
I felt the same way about myself, and my sister thinks the same about herself now. She is younger than me.

Now I look back on photos of me when I was younger and I think, what was I so worried about?? I was just shy…I didn’t realise what I had.

Now I am a little older, and I am so much more comfortable in my own skin.
I go out wearing not much makeup, but always try to look like I havent just woken up…like I care…
Not that it matters what you look like, but I just feel so much better, I have more confidence in myself.

You should never think you aren’t beautiful. NEVER !!

just do it for myself? i never thought of it that way… i might as well since i’ll look horrable either way, lolz. thank you everyone!! ^_^

littlemiss wrote:
How old are you if you don’t mind me asking??
I felt the same way about myself, and my sister thinks the same about herself now. She is younger than me.

Now I look back on photos of me when I was younger and I think, what was I so worried about?? I was just shy…I didn’t realise what I had.

Now I am a little older, and I am so much more comfortable in my own skin.
I go out wearing not much makeup, but always try to look like I havent just woken up…like I care…
Not that it matters what you look like, but I just feel so much better, I have more confidence in myself.

You should never think you aren’t beautiful. NEVER !!

i just turned 18 on the 5th! that tank top was a birthday gift from myself to me XD

Well, I think you should dress in whatever you think makes you look nice…and looks like you.
Not that your trying to make a statement or anything.
Just as long as you are happy within yourself…

nothing i ware can make me look nice. well, my body is okay its just ruend by my embarressing face, lolz. and not just because of the zits. it would make no difference wheather they were there or not, my face is just plane embarresing!! lolz

oh come on! how’s anyone ever gonna like you if you can’t even like yourself.
I really doubt you’re as bad you think. It’s always worse in your head.
Try tea tree oil, that should help clear your skin up.
As I said, a good hair cut changes your whole face.

If you’re confident people won’t care what you look like.

♪ PheeGee ♫ wrote:

♪ PheeGee ♫ wrote:
You presumably are not a monster. Do people turn away their heads in disgust when you walk past them? No. So your fine. Pretty yourself up, relax and wait for the compliments.

I repeat myself. Read it. YOU ARE NOT EMBARRASSING.

no but my face is =P

Summer Rain Smith wrote:
oh come on! how’s anyone ever gonna like you if you can’t even like yourself.
I really doubt you’re as bad you think. It’s always worse in your head.
Try tea tree oil, that should help clear your skin up.
As I said, a good hair cut changes your whole face.

If you’re confident people won’t care what you look like.

yeah… thats another issue. i can’t even say ‘i love you’ to my cats!! >_

I don’t think this is about looking pretty anymore.
I think it is deeper than that…

You need to believe you are beautiful. You said you believe in God didn’t you?
Well, God creates everything.
You are no different.
Trust me.
People are gifted in different ways.
Some people are incredibly beautiful to look at, but their personality is enough to make you want to vomit.
Some people aren’t as lucky, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

I hate it when people compare themselves to others…
Be unique, be an individual…be yourself.

was i compareing myself? my attitide is embarrasing? you mean i’m as bad in the inside as i am on the outside…? hmm, that makes sense.

♪ PheeGee ♫ wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
was i compareing myself? my attitide is embarrasing? you mean i’m as bad in the inside as i am on the outside…? hmm, that makes sense.

I mean the way you think of yourself sucks, there is probably nothing wrong with the way you look.

you havn’t even seen me… and trust me, you don’t want to.

Oh “I love you” is a whole other issue.
I had a problem with it too and I wouldn’t say it to anyone. It felt heavy. then I realised it’s only as important as you make it.
Now it’s like sorry, I say it to everyone :D
My friends always sense the sarcasm though, lol I usually say I love you cause I don’t wanna say something bad :P

There is nothing wrong with you !
You are stuck with what you are given…so you may as well be happy, and be the best that you can be.

Have people put these ideas into your head, that your not pretty??
Because if it is other people, don’t listen to them.

Just be yourself, a free spririt. You don’t need the acceptance of anybody, and once people see how happy you are within yourself, they will want to be around you.

lolz.

littlemiss wrote:
There is nothing wrong with you !
You are stuck with what you are given…so you may as well be happy, and be the best that you can be.

Have people put these ideas into your head, that your not pretty??
Because if it is other people, don’t listen to them.

Just be yourself, a free spririt. You don’t need the acceptance of anybody, and once people see how happy you are within yourself, they will want to be around you.

what put the idea that i’m not pretty in my head was the mirror, lolz.

Summer Rain Smith wrote:
Oh “I love you” is a whole other issue.
I had a problem with it too and I wouldn’t say it to anyone. It felt heavy. then I realised it’s only as important as you make it.
Now it’s like sorry, I say it to everyone :D
My friends always sense the sarcasm though, lol I usually say I love you cause I don’t wanna say something bad :P

thats what i was saying ‘lolz’ to. the posts are to fast! lolz.

lol dude, seriously, you sound like you have a good personality, who cares what you look like!
Just try and feel good about yourself. do what makes you happy.
Unless you have like one giant eye in the middle of your face, you’re fine. Even then…
lol seriously, there’s no point in fixating on the negatives. You have some good advice on here, take it and do something with it.

Summer Rain Smith wrote:
lol dude, seriously, you sound like you have a good personality, who cares what you look like!
Just try and feel good about yourself. do what makes you happy.
Unless you have like one giant eye in the middle of your face, you’re fine. Even then…
lol seriously, there’s no point in fixating on the negatives. You have some good advice on here, take it and do something with it.

thank you summer rain =)

You are welcome :)

sanrio wrote:
post ur pic and we will tell the answer honestly. cause you are not gonna believe any advice in this thread anyway you will just be like “oh they haven’t seen me what do they know”

not really a good idea. and you sound creepy.

I’m an 18 year old girl. i don’t wear make up unless i’m going clubbing. I mainly wear jeans and tees to uni. I often don’t brush my hair in the morning. I don’t have flawless skin. Yet somehow i have so many wonderful friends from IT nerds, to the indie crowd to the devoted christian networks to the ‘popular’ party kids. However, i smile a lot, pay attention to what people are saying, i’m supposedly funny and most of all I don’t judge people beforehand. this is what i feel makes me beautiful. If changing your look a bit makes you feel good do it. If it doesn’t do it anyway. Its a good challenge because some day you’ll change your style why wait. its important to look approachable but you don’t have to go overboard and look like those skanky attention seeking girls. find the balance in dressing up that you feel comfortable with.

fashion is the way we express ourselves and how we feel. enough said.

Always:)
Especially for friends too.

thank you everyone! now if only quility make-up didn’t cost an arm and a leg! lolz. seriously, i’m used to shopping at wal-mart but the other day iw as in koals and i was going to get some eye shadow to go with my prom dress and i found the perfect stuff but 2 little colors cost $15!!! i dont’ think so, lmao

lolz i know, right!?!? specially when you think about how much they cost and how often you’ll use them….not to mention they spoil too, so ugh….i know it sucks!

i know!! and my friend gave me this old make-up kit of hers that shes had since she was a kid and i tryed useing some but it dissapeard in less than an hour plus i don’t think its safe but i can’t get rid of it because she was all excited about me useing it

Anonymous wrote:
lolz i know, right!?!? specially when you think about how much they cost and how often you’ll use them….not to mention they spoil too, so ugh….i know it sucks!

omg!! someone else who does lol with a z!!! lolz

Anonymous wrote:
i know!! and my friend gave me this old make-up kit of hers that shes had since she was a kid and i tryed useing some but it dissapeard in less than an hour plus i don’t think its safe but i can’t get rid of it because she was all excited about me useing it

haha! little kid make-up doesn’t last, at least from my experience even if it’s new it’ll disappear in no time.

shes older than me and in college >_> lolz XD

haha!!! well if she got it when she was a kid, it’s probably make-up for kids….? you know, they have some to play dress-up, etc.

yeah, i don’t know when she got it. i will just put it in the drawer so that if she ever comes over i can prove i haev it instead of throwing it away after telling her a use it. man, girls are awful, lolz maybe its just me

Anonymous wrote:
thank you everyone! now if only quility make-up didn’t cost an arm and a leg! lolz. seriously, i’m used to shopping at wal-mart but the other day iw as in koals and i was going to get some eye shadow to go with my prom dress and i found the perfect stuff but 2 little colors cost $15!!! i dont’ think so, lmao

Sometimes if you go to an expensive salon or store and ask them for lessons on new products and explain to them about your prom, they may give you samples. Tell them Max sent you:)

Max wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
thank you everyone! now if only quility make-up didn’t cost an arm and a leg! lolz. seriously, i’m used to shopping at wal-mart but the other day iw as in koals and i was going to get some eye shadow to go with my prom dress and i found the perfect stuff but 2 little colors cost $15!!! i dont’ think so, lmao

Sometimes if you go to an expensive salon or store and ask them for lessons on new products and explain to them about your prom, they may give you samples. Tell them Max sent you:)

thanks, but i’m kinda out of time. i will just pick up some cheap stuff at wal-mart real quick, lolz thank you again everyone!

have fun!! and be good

be good? don’t worry! i’m a devoted catholic, and mother nature decided to come with me so even if i didn’t want to be good i wouldnt’ have much of a choice XD

lol, good to hear :P
(not the mother nature bit, that kinda sucks)

UR BEAUTIFUL XD