Love help: How can I get to know this girl better without coming on too strong?

gack46

How can I get to know this girl better without coming on too strong?

There’s this girl in my sociology class who I’ve always had my eye on more or less since the first week of class and I made it my goal to talk to her.

I finally had the guts to walk up to her one day and introduce myself and find out her name. Since then, we sit next to each other in class and occasionally strike up a conversation. And after class we walk together and talk about the past weekend or whatever.

I asked if she wanted to get lunch after class but she has another class right after.

So what am I to do? I was thinking of asking her more or less “Hey, I know you have philosophy right after but could I get your number so we can get lunch and hang out sometime?”

Is that good and to the point?

I want to clarify that I legitimately want to get to know her better. I mean our conversations don’t extend past talking about class or our weekends. I know I can make her laugh, I just want it out of a setting that I can only talk to her for 2 minutes at a time.

But is asking for her number and asking to get lunch too pushy? I don’t want this to be interpreted as a date and she would run off and think I’m creepy.

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Anonymous #
3 years, 1 month ago (10 minutes after post)

In my opinion, you aren’t coming off as too strong at all! From what you’ve said thus far, asking her for her phone number is perfectly normal. If she says no, then you know for sure her feelings. At least then you won’t be kept wondering if she really likes you. I wish you all the luck!

Jane Austen 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (18 minutes after post)

Maybe ask her if you can call her first–then ask for her number. Or ask her to do something specific like go to a movie or coffee one day and then you will need her number to set it up–whatever–it’s all good. You are so fine–don’t worry!!!

Help me with: I can’t take it anymore I am suppose to be working on my novel but I feel like I am in a box and I can’t deal.

Adel42 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (22 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
In my opinion, you aren’t coming off as too strong at all! From what you’ve said thus far, asking her for her phone number is perfectly normal. If she says no, then you know for sure her feelings. At least then you won’t be kept wondering if she really likes you. I wish you all the luck!

I agree, it should be fine to ask for her number, I doubt that’s she’ll freak out or anything. Good luck!

amanda_lulu2011 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (28 minutes after post)

i agree with everyone else! i dont think you are coming on too strong at all! i think that you have a perfect plan to talk to her!

good luck!!! :)

Anonymous #
3 years, 1 month ago (33 minutes after post)

Adel42 wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
In my opinion, you aren’t coming off as too strong at all! From what you’ve said thus far, asking her for her phone number is perfectly normal. If she says no, then you know for sure her feelings. At least then you won’t be kept wondering if she really likes you. I wish you all the luck!

I agree, it should be fine to ask for her number, I doubt that’s she’ll freak out or anything. Good luck!

do that

gack46 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (3 hours, 6 minutes after post)

I wanna make sure, by doing this I’m only helping my cause if I eventually want to go out with her? Being a guy, of course I wanna go out with her right now, but I don’t know her too well and if I ask at this point, it’ll be an awkward no. I just don’t want to be friend-zoned is all.

Help me with: How can I get past the “touch barrier” of flirting without seeming creepy?

Anonymous #
3 years, 1 month ago (12 hours, 18 minutes after post)

probably just ask her out…
to a dance…
she obviously likes you…but you know that right??

amanda_lulu2011 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (14 hours, 27 minutes after post)

yeah, it will be good to get to know her first. become friends to begin with them maybe talk to her about dating. if she does not want to get into a relationship at that time then just be patient. hang out some together or just go out with a group of friends. i bet everything will be fine though since it sounds like to me that she seems to like you.

gack46 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (2 days, 19 hours after post)

UPDATE: I asked her today and she said ok so I got her number. I didn’t really feel enthusiasm about it when 2 seconds ago she was just telling me a really funny story. My question is when should I text her and ask her to get lunch or hang out or do something?

I like her, but I don’t know if I should make it date status, like if I ask her to lunch, should I pay for it? Or maybe make it something more low key?

Help me with: How can I get past the “touch barrier” of flirting without seeming creepy?

Adel42 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 3 years, 1 month ago (3 days, 4 hours after post)

I would make it more low key, take her to a not very expensive or fancy place, or maybe even ask her where she’d like to go, that way you don’t scare her away. Then after the first time you two go out to lunch you can make if fancier and more date like if you want. Good luck!

crrll_j 0 #
An Unknown Location | 3 years ago (3 weeks, 3 days after post)

hi, i need some help. i met this girl and we went on a date.(as gack46 status, i was the same in the beginning. waiting for the right time to ask her for her number) i called her to study together and she said yah and when we met up, we actually just talked about each other the whole time and it was fun. we had a really great time. i made her laugh a lot and she wasn’t fake laughing, im sure of that. we ate together and everything. i dont know if i should call it a date but yah that was our first date. then after that day, it seems like shes trying to avoid me and i feel like im bothering her too and i dont think i am. i only sent her one txt a day and she always seem so busy but when i meet her at school, shes so happy and we talk great..so im confused…any thoughts?? i dont know if maybe im coming too strong or fast. its only been two weeks, so please any thoughts or advice????

Help me with: I went out with this girl and it was our first date and it turned out great.

jigsawbo #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 1 month ago (11 months, 2 weeks after post)

lol keep textin son !!! u can do it keep pressing send send send send send send

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