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my boyfriend never likes to go out and DO things.

he says its a waste of time, and its boring the hell out of me. how can i get him to stop being so cynical and actually have fun?

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Listy gurl offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 51 #
US | 1 year, 9 months ago (11 minutes after post)

you could try talking to him and tell him that you are tierd of never doing anything together and tell him how it makes you feel maybe he might starte doing things with you.
Hope I helped

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kanephan offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (3 hours, 16 minutes after post)

Accept it or leave him. He’s not likely to change. When the two of you are bored what would he like to do?

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yay_bubbles offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Cedar Falls, IA, US | 1 year, 9 months ago (13 hours, 15 minutes after post)

wat kanephan said. keep him or leave him. i had a boyfriend like that and it was soooooooooo boring i broke up with him. some guys are like that. boring. no fun. losers. lol

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lwpqrsmv. offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (13 hours, 43 minutes after post)

You may not be able to change him. Was he like this from the beginning? Try talking to him about how you feel, but if hes not open to talking or even if you do and he continues like he is, then you may have to decide if you want to continue a relationship with him or not.

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Canoso offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
London, ON, CA | 1 year, 9 months ago (15 hours, 29 minutes after post)

Yeah talk to him about how the things are going in the wrong way, if it stays the same then you’ve got no other option but to leave him, some people is just like that..

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adelogin offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (19 hours, 19 minutes after post)

well to my best of knowledge you still really love him .fine.you have to sit him down once more and let him know how much you care and love for him,and if still insist well forget about him,many guys who could love you better than he are out there.if you force urself to him he will only end up using you and dump you,.which could make you more useless

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Cajun offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dolores Hidalgo, 11, MX | 1 year, 9 months ago (1 day, 14 hours after post)

is it just you or has he always been that way

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wtfinger offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
US | 1 year, 9 months ago (2 days, 1 hour after post)

this may sound a little too clinical but there are things called chemistry and compatibility between people. I have learned the hard way how important those things are. the sad part is that you can have a very strong love for someone you are not really compatible with and someone with whom you have little to know chemistry with. All I can say is that there is someone that would gladly go out with you and you would not have to beg anyone. when you fine someone that is right for you, you will know it. unfortunately, we tend to ignore the signs of an incompatible relationship.

still, only you know who you are with. there could be tons a chemistry you did not mention - he may be getting dressed to take you dancing as I write this!

let your heart and common sense lead you.
bill

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parshevic offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (3 days, 13 hours after post)

I think that ListenClose is right. You have to talk to him and tell him all that you think!

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godblessings offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

tell him if he dont take you out, you will be going out with your friends.

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tinker. offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Hillcrest, 04, AU | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (10 months, 2 weeks after post)

ok so i had a girl friend just like that 2 days ago i tryed hugging her she pushed me off i tryed to talk to her during school she walked off when we went to movies i tryed to get something from my bag she kicked me :( if he is anything like this well teh my friend you are dating the wrong person it is these people who get very upset when you break up witht htem WHY because they think if they have a bf or gf they will get more friends or they will have sex…..its wrong i tell you but first do a test pash him if he puts his tounge in ur mouth too then well you will know its right and hee will loosen up if he dosent then he is using you most likly

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