Love help: The problem is not me its my wife. - Help.com

whenever you have some free time, take her somewhere where you have to excersize (a romantic walk downtown, in the park, beach, etc.) let her know you’re there for her. also if you have free time, make healthy meals for the family. and a healthy dessert (fruit) good luck!

It sounds to me like your wife is feeling neglected and in need of some personal private attention from you. Raising 2 children isn’t easy. If you have your military career and shes home with the kids, where is the time for you and her. Do you schedule date time or alone time just for the two of you. You say its not you but her, and yes to a large degree, but what shes doing to herself didn’t just happen overnight.
Stop threatening her and criticizing her and work with her. Talk to her in a positive way rather than the way you have been talking to her. Like yodaluv12 said, do things with her like walking and even schedule some alone time where you and her can exercise together and have fun at it. If the romance has died out between you two, then rekindle it. C’mon, shes your wife and the mother of your kids, so help her and work with her but without the threats and criticisms. When you do that, you just make her resentful towards you and then shes not going to listen to your words.

There is a way to solve her health issues and make her lose weight guaranteed. Visit www.loseweight7.com and look at what the site has to offer. Good luck!

It sounds to me like the problem is rooted in dpression. Lots of women are what is referred to as “emotional eaters”. Tell her she should consider seeing a therepist. If that’s not where the problem lies, maybe she should consider a procedure called gastric bypass. My mother had it in June and she’s lost over 90 pounds since then. I’m having it this July. It’s a lot of work, but it works for those of us who’ve tried everything else. Type www.allina.com/ahs/mercyunity.nsf/page/surgery into the url bar and though I don’t know where you live and this is a page for the twin cities in Minnesota, it will tell you an awful lot about the surgery and other options, too. Good luck!

Oh, and I just wanted to thank you. You said you’re in the army and you guys don’t get enough thanks. I hope you have a safe return, and that when you get back, things will be better for you…. :)

wow, she really needs to relize how important her health is. I mean i joined the National Guard and omg i am dying becuase of my lack of fittness. If she has to take care of the kids how will she honestly survive. She wouldn’t be able to look after them. Maybe she just needs to work out alot, or maybe surgery. I hope its goes well