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go for it.. im in the same situation, except im the girl, and all i can say is that we should both just go for it

I think you should go for it! Cause down the road you wish you would have done it! Trust me!

1-girls aren’t as fragile as you think and 2-tell her, you’ll kick yourself for not doing so in the future. can’t win without risking loosing something.

Has she asked about the kind of girls you like?

Jolly Delta Charger wrote:
Has she asked about the kind of girls you like?

No she hasn’t. I mean I seem to really like her though. lol

U need to tell her! could it be that you are scared to tell her? scared that she might now react the way you want her to? But what if she does react the way you want it to and things work out great! its worth the risk! So go for it!

mellowmar wrote:
U need to tell her! could it be that you are scared to tell her? scared that she might now react the way you want her to? But what if she does react the way you want it to and things work out great! its worth the risk! So go for it!

I’m scared, yes. More so because I don’t want her ending our friendship because of it, not sure why she’d do that but it came to mind.

If she hasn’t looked at you that way… (has she? check…)
then you best come up with something that will change her mind;
otherwise you’ll get a “I don’t feel that way.”

Does she have other friends? Pull one of them aside and ask them. If they don’t know whether she likes you, ask if she talks about you. If they say she likes you, go for it. If they say she doesn’t, find a different friend of hers. If you get the same result, tell her discreetly or wait a little while. And tell her (but only if it’s true) that you don’t want it to be too serious (at least starting out) and make sure you talk to her when she’s calm about this particular topic.

Yeah… losing a friend can be huge. So first decide which is more important, but it’s almost always better to be friends first before turning it into a relationship.

Ask her what she thinks of the two of you being a couple. Ask her out on a date. You need to tell her how you feel because unless she’s a mind reader, she might not have any idea how you feel. Ask her the kind of person or who she wants to date. Never know, she might say you!

Anonymous wrote:

Jolly Delta Charger wrote:
Has she asked about the kind of girls you like?

No she hasn’t. I mean I seem to really like her though. lol

Have you told her about your past relationships or has the conversation been mostly about her needs?

I’ll probably be the oddball here, but I don’t think it’s something you should TALK about. It’s more thrilling (in my mind, and my experience) if you just ask her to do things without saying “wanna be my girlfriend?” That’s not good. Just invite her to a movie or out to dinner and let the idea dawn on her (maybe slowly) that you might think of her as more than a friend. Plus, that way you don’t commit yourself or put her on the spot. Plus it leaves room for her to remain your friend. Plus the thrill of being asked on a date, without it being actually “called” a date, is much more mysterious and romantic. Does any of this make sense to you?

In other words, SHOW her (but subtly).

Daruma wrote:
Yeah… losing a friend can be huge. So first decide which is more important, but it’s almost always better to be friends first before turning it into a relationship.

Ask her what she thinks of the two of you being a couple. Ask her out on a date. You need to tell her how you feel because unless she’s a mind reader, she might not have any idea how you feel. Ask her the kind of person or who she wants to date. Never know, she might say you!

I definitely agree, being friends first is key.

Jolly Delta Charger wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Jolly Delta Charger wrote:
Has she asked about the kind of girls you like?

No she hasn’t. I mean I seem to really like her though. lol

Have you told her about your past relationships or has the conversation been mostly about her needs?

Well she has helped me get over one girl, before her, that I liked and she knows how I felt and everything. She isn’t like “oh, let’s talk about me all the time.” she’ll let me know if she really needs to talk, other than that it’s typical friend conversation.

Florimas wrote:
In other words, SHOW her (but subtly).

I really like that idea!

Anonymous wrote:

Florimas wrote:
In other words, SHOW her (but subtly).

I really like that idea!

Good. :)