Help help: I dont know what to do…I’m so lonely….How do i get past being a loser? - Help.com

idk why you have to act at all. don’t blame your brother for staying in his attic. maybe it’s true that they would have a hard time without you there, but your space isn’t hard to fill(they could always get another roommate). what you mean is that YOU can’t afford anyplace else, and you know what? that’s ok. just start being honest with yourself and ultimately you’ll grow into being honest with others. at least i hope so.

Everyone experiences loneliness it’s part of the human condition unfortunately, a feeling that we have been separated from something or disconnection.Often we have separated from ourselves, try meditating(I know its not for everyone but it can help to connect with yourself and seeing things clearly. You are not a loser and there is nothing wrong with living in your brothers attic as long as its warm and waterproof haha. I think you know which steps need to be taken to improve your situation. 1 Job 2 appartment and hopefully evrything else will start falling into place. Maybe you could join a dating site, maybe you wont meet that special someone but its a great way to pass the time and make some friends!!

Hannah

ps congrats on passing you test!!!!! Yay!!

ps I agree with anon be really honest with yourself its the only way you can be really self fullfilled. :)

go for it! there’s rooms for rent which are a couple of hundred, depending on your area. just make sure it’s near public transport if you don’t have a car. idk what trip you’re talking about but good luck w/ that.

glad he has the $ to take that trip. i’m sure they’ll be fine without you.

Which city are you in?

Maybe I don’t really understand your situation, but it seems that if you left you would be even more alone. Family is also very important. I made the mistake of ignoring my brother for years, and then he finally came to live with me for several years and he passed away last month. I now regret intensely those missed years. We don’t ever get them back. If you are paying half of a mortgage plus other expenses, you are not a loser. I cannot imagine your brother would think so either. Try interacting more with the children - they are usually full of good cheer and need as many people in their lives as they can get. They most likely will not think of you in any negative way, and you can be yourself around them because they are children. Good luck.