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I hear ya, mate. That happened to me, too. I moved in with my grandmother after my grandfather died and Nan came to depend on me more than she should have. She used to say how the loneliness got to her and how much better her life was now that she had company. It made it really hard when I finished university and got a job as Nan was clearly upset by the thought of my moving out and moving away. I remember telling my mother about how conflicted I felt when the time came, but she told me that growing old was part of life and my Nan had to deal with it, that I wasn’t doing her any favours by allowing her to depend on me. She also said that Nan was not my responsibility and that I had my own life to live . It didn’t make it hurt any less or make me feel any less guilty, but in time I came to see that my Mum was right. Nan did did start to live life again and learn to adapt to being on her own. She made a heap of new friends and the rest of the family started to help out more as I was no longer there to carry the load for them. My breaking free did not hurt my Nan at all and I know that when she died, she was surrounded by love and happiness.

Glad I could help. as I said, I’ve been there. Good luck, mate.