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I agree with you, and that is one of her issues. Not that I check my e-mail so much as the timing of said checking. An example was last night: I came home around midnight, gave her a warm hug and a few kisses on her forehead. She was feeling a tad under the weather, so curled up in bed. I checked my e-mail and began typing a rather important e-mail. It had to arrive with a particular attachment by a deadline early this morning. Anyhow, she got very upset with me because I chose to take care of this, instead of her. I was but 5 minutes writing this e-mail. And afterwards I attempted to console her and cuddle. She’d have none of it.

As far as the e-mails waiting until tomorrow, my business is a global entity and because I have various clients around the world, I am somewhat obligated to respond to specific requests in a timely manner. I chose this career path and it has made a rather comfortable lifestyle for both of us. She has always been aware of my business and busy-ness, but suddenly this has become a problem worthy of turning cold shoulders in my direction.

lol Anthrax. No offense taken. My career has been built on an elaborate chain of events that has allowed for me to essentially be retired. Because I have major stakes in my various enterprises, I choose to ensure things move efficiently and effectively. 65 hours a week is not too bad compared to before I was in this position.

As far as the issue at hand, I will say she did mention feeling a tad neglected lately. I don’t mean to make her feel this way, and quite honestly, I feel that I have been supportive and expressive with my positive emotional treatment to her. I have had no inclination that there was an issue with this until last night. The quite bizarre thing is, she only just telephoned me from work to say “I love you.”.

I am rather confused about the entire thing. I really feel like she has set expectations of me that are rather high considering my lifestyle. She is my world and I do what I do for us. I don’t vacation to compensate for lost time. We have no children. It is just us!

I hope I get out of the doghouse soon too. The couch is really not that comfortable.

I suppose the real question here is; How do I make her realize I care for her as much as I do? I really think I treat her fantastically and provide a decent style of living. I know I can avoid the computer when we are together but should I have to? Obviously, for the sake of our relationship, I am more than willing to take the necessary steps to ensure her happiness. I still need to get things done though! Delicate balance. I’ll give her more attention I guess.

She complains about our lack of cuddling. We cuddle daily, just not for enough time for her. I’m an efficiency expert so am trying to determine the amount of time of cuddling versus productivity. Very bad of me to think this way I know. lol

I cannot just dump her. I am certain she WOULD care. Immensely. We love each other a lot.

Anthrax, I must be missing something then? She tells me she is feeling neglected even though we just spent a bunch of time together. I refer to our time as precious and I ensure that our time together is quality in nature. A few minutes taken out of our time is really what she is on about. Because I jump on the computer quickly, she takes great offense because it takes away from our time together. And to be perfectly honest, I am no exaggerating. It is literally 5 minutes at most.

What could be the deeper issue I am oblivious to?

Thanks everyone. I will endeavor to try! I really do make effort to spend quality time. I only post here when I am at the office. She is not tech-savvy in the least so, I should try to be more accommodating to her needs.

I’ll try and maintain a more positive focus on her and her needs and hopefully get off this extraordinarily uncomfortable couch. :)

*Update* She came home and apologized. Saying she knows she expects a lot from me and she is sorry for being selfish. I said I was sorry too and will try to be more conscientious of her needs. I have turned the computer off.

No more couch! I fear the menopause.