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pros/cons of having a wedding?

i don’t want one. my plan has always been to visit the courthouse and be done w/ it, but the bf wants one. said he’ll plan all of it, all i need to do is show up. the idea is ideal, yet it’s not possible as i’d still need to be involved somewhat for the dress and invitations etc. so i’m wondering if there’s any pros/cons(specially pros) to having a wedding. to me it’s simply a chance to boast and spend money you probably don’t have. nothing that can’t be accomplished later in some kind of get-together with family, etc. am i right or am i right?

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robby_h_2 offline Verified User (3 years) Long Term User Shouts: 25 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 11 months ago (2 minutes after post)

Sorry but I believe marriage is an out of date old fashioned piece of tatt.

They cost far too much, to get married and to get divorced. The amount of legal benefit to them is small.

Just live together and have fun.

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IrAdler offline Verified User (4 years, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 11 months ago (6 minutes after post)

I agree with the financial part and the headache to get there. I believe in simple ceremonies and later on family gatherings.

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JDC offline Verified User (3 years, 12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 11 months ago (7 minutes after post)

i get what you’re saying. when i was engaged my boyfriend and i both said we would be fine just going to the JP. my mom insisted on us having a nice wedding. and thats what we did. either way i wouldn’t have minded, as long as i was marrying the man i loved, nothing else mattered. but i am very glad we had a wedding. it was so great, and memorable, and just so much fun. your wedding day is the one event that you get to control completely, it can be however you want it. and it is a great excuse to get all of the family and friends together.
if he wants to, you should have one. obviously its something yall might want to talk more about, but in the end, it wouldn’t hurt to have a wedding. you’d love it. and it could be something really small if you don’t want a big one.
i think you should, but it is all up to you.
Congratulations, by the way

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Leka offline Verified User (3 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 11 months ago (23 minutes after post)

I want a small wedding in a beautiful french Chateau. The one single moment that will last forever. its worth it :) for me i got to find the potential husband :(

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1 year, 2 months ago (1 year, 9 months after post)

this is an old post, but thanks for all the responses! we decided on doing the court and if we feel like we need one down the road we’ll probably renew our vows(if not that’s fine, haha).

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