dating help: Is this guy interested in me? - Help.com

Oh yeah…He’s interested. I had that same thing go on with me. That short but what seems liek forever eye contact thing, the constant glancing. From what you tell us, he seems shy. I say go try to work some magic with him. Sounds to me like he wants to try something, but he isn’t very confident yet, and that’s why he can’t really look a you for too long. Try to break him out of his shell for a while, show him you’re interested.

i think it’s safe to say he’s interested! why don’t you try talking to him or asking him to get coffee or lunch with you?

hey guys, thanks for the quick replies :) hmm. i really wanna say hi. and like start a conversation.. been thinking of what to say, but all i can come up with is cheesy pick up lines like “hey ive been seeing you ard office and didnt catch your name…” haha, not the best in the world. i dont want to make him uncomfortable too, cause he seems like a really nice, genuine guy.

hes either interested or hes a creeper. make sure hes not one of those wierdos that stalks people and takes pictures of them and hass a shrine in their room dedicated to people he likes.. but anyways your next move should be to make a move. cause obviously hes not going to. youre gonna have to be the one to ask him out.

Thats a fear we all have at first. We wanna go further than strangers, but are worried about the awkwardness. Sometimes the cheesy lines are the best in these situations. For whatever reason it works better when girls do it than when guys do. Just remember that its not about PLANNING what to say, but what you WANT to say. Don’t script yourself, its basically just an act if you do.

ask him something! and be really nice! he could be a creeper though careful!

@this is over: hmm, no he’s not the creeper type. he’s more of the reserved type than the creeper type. lol at ur shrine thing. i think recently, a girl in the office kinda did that to him, and he didnt seem like he cared.

@mtlhavoc9: oh yea i get what you mean abt the scripted conversation thing - awkward. haha. i will do whatever i feel like in the moment.

i dont know if this has a bearing though. im 21 and he’s 29. but ive always been into older men.. not sure how it would affect our dynamics though.

if you say that he’s the person who stays alone and is a little serious and all then i think he’s shy, hes been giving you signals constantly but i guess both of you want to make the first move but can’t, you both are confused, and ya if he’s shy he won’t( but there’s a possibility that if hes really into you he might as well) and ask yourself, if your interested then whenever the next time you guys bump into eachother try greeting him with a hello and a smile.Trust me they work great together and once you two start talking i am pretty sure it’ll go somewhere. Either one way or the other! But your next move is as simple as one word and its “hello”!
Besta luck!

It shouldnt do much to the dynamics much, mostly, the older vs younger generally take s a big affect in the teens. You guys are more mature, so I wouldnt dwell on it much.

@gilani: thanks alot! :) i will do that the next time!

@mtlhavoc9: ok thanks too!

No problem! Go get ‘em girl!

haha thats the spirit! thank you! :)

No problem! :)

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@gilani: thanks alot! :) i will do that the next time!

@mtlhavoc9: ok thanks too!

Hey guys.. if you care haha.

I did manage to have a conversation with him. It was on the pretense of looking for someone when we were both alone in the office. Well, he was pretty helpful and kept wanting to know why i was looking for the person. And after that, I just asked for his name, we did intros and we talked. yup.

I think I was feeling pretty shy, and he came off more confident than i expected him to be. For some reason, i kept moving away from him, he left his seat and followed me til we were standing someplace good, facing each other. He was asking me more questions abt me than i was abt him =/ i totally cringe when i think of the things i said now..anyway yes, he was very attentive and had his gaze fixed on my face during the entire conversation. We ended when he had to leave.

since then whenever he passes he either smiles or says hello (and he sounds quite flirty ha)

god. so much description just for a conversation. haha anyway, just a followup ;)

Good for you! Right now I broke my boundry line finally in a long time so I feel where ur coming from. Hey, this is a big first step, details are important! Congrats!

go for it (= he sounds like a creeper but I guess some girls like that.

@abstract: Nah, he’s not a creeper haha, dont know what your definition of that is, but so far, ive not been stalked/touched inappropriately, so… haha.

@mtlhavoc9: thanks=) thing is, i dont know how to continue from here! He has been more obvious about his interest now that I’ve spoken to him, and I’m like at a loss haha. When he says hello i just turn to mush. I’ve never been this loser-ish in front of a guy (it could be the age gap), and im not sure if he knows I’m interested. If he ever looks in at me I just smile and say nothing! =(

Don’t think of it as loserish. Think of it this way: It makes it that much easier for him to make advances toward you and further things alone than when he feels that he has the dominance. Some guys, like myself, find it easier to approach girls who are mushy, and not so hard-assish. Its not a bad trait, in fact alot of guys I know(me too) find it adorable. If ya wanna break that tho, you gotta just stop weighing pros and cons, what-ifs, and just dive right in. That’s how I broke that boundry line, ya just make up your mind to do it, and you just, ya do it! XD. Its not easy sometimes, but well worth it.

^ I totally agree with you, haha thanks! Though alot of people are asking me why he hasnt made a move. seriously i dont know? i mean, i know he has been single real long (even his friends ask him why is he still single). and all i know is that he isnt that way towards other girls in the office. plus, he only responds to my actions. if i talk, he talks. if i wave, he waves, i smile he smiles. =/ i dont know if race is an issue. he’s chinese, im mixed (chinese-indian) but he seemed interested when we were talking abt my ethnicity.. gah. shld i just ask him to lunch? lol

Heck ya, just shoot for the stars!