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This is the situation:

My neighbor has a child who just turned 8. He hits his parents, throws things, and screams obscenities and anything else he can think of when he doesn’t get his way. I have a son a bit older that him who refuses to play with him anymore since over the last 4 years we have lived next to him, he hits and screams at us when we tell him “it’s time to go home’ after he has been here all day. This has happened numerous times too over the years, so when he does it we ask his parents not to send him over to play and tell him he is not allowed over for a while because he broke our rule of ‘no hitting” which by the way sends him into another rage.
I spoke with his mother about this (who is one my dear friends) and asked her to please not send him over as much anymore since my son really does not want anything to do with him anymore because of his abuse toward us and them. (I didn’t phrase it that way, but that is the jest of what I said). Since this discussion, which she said she ‘understood why’, yet she has not come over to the house in several weeks, which she usually came over in the past, several times a week (with or without her son) and has now told her eldest daughter (who is a very good friend of mine also) that she should not come over since her brother ‘is not allowed over anymore’.
Please give me insight as to what I do or it I did the right thing. We never hit in our house, and this really scares my children and ourselves to see this young lad throw things at us and hit us when we ask him to leave…how can I fix this?

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candp 34 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (5 minutes after post)

You did nothing wrong. You have a right to enforce a no hit zone in your home. If your friend cannot understand that you would have to allow her son’s violence in your home and against your family in order to maintain a friendship with her is truly asking too much of anyone, let her go. With a friend like her you would not need any enemies.

You did nothing wrong. You have a right to enforce a no hit zone in your home. If your friend cannot understand that you would have to allow her son's violence in your home and against your family in order to maintain a friendship with her is truly asking too much of anyone, let her go. With a friend like her you would not need any enemies.

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Las Vegas, NV, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (8 minutes after post)

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Osiris 2 #
Portland, OR, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (12 minutes after post)

I was hoping someone would say that, it just hurts to know I have been ostracized over it. Maybe I should buy that book for myself and my neighbor. Thank you.

I was hoping someone would say that, it just hurts to know I have been ostracized over it. Maybe I should buy that book for myself and my neighbor. Thank you.

SWEETxPOISON 7 #
Pasadena, CA, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (15 minutes after post)

i agree.i think you have done nothing wrong at all.its your home.and your rules.if they dont understand discipline..whose fault is that?..certainly not yours.you did what was best.

i agree.i think you have done nothing wrong at all.its your home.and your rules.if they dont understand discipline..whose fault is that?..certainly not yours.you did what was best.

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Osiris 2 #
Portland, OR, US | 2 years, 10 months ago (38 minutes after post)

I was thinking the same thing to myself Amoebus, but I dont have the gumption to say that to her. I guess I would be upset too if someone told me I wasnn’t parenting my kids the way I should.

I was thinking the same thing to myself Amoebus, but I dont have the gumption to say that to her. I guess I would be upset too if someone told me I wasnn't parenting my kids the way I should.

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