If you would like to live your lifetime with no self worth then just go with anyone that will pay attention to you for a moment. Unfortunately, you will be setting yourself up for a very painful, probably abusive journey. It does not sound like much fun does it? On the other hand, if you would like to discuss how we can help you develop self worth because you deserve it, we will be happy to assist you. In answer to your question, you would not be in the wrong.
yeah i want help. i also want help with my boyfriend. i just don’t know what to do about him. if i want to discuss something about us then he just won’t discuss it he just changes the subject and says that its not important we’re fine. or he just doesn’t return my calls if he knows thats what i want to talk about.
Kt, We can’t fix your bf but we can work on you. Why would you want to be attached to someone who readily dismisses you and anything you would like to discuss? Seriously, imagine if you married someone like this what kind of life you would have. Do you really need to punish yourself with this type of a relationship? We bet you could do much better if you would raise your sights a little higher. You deserve it. What do you think?
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i think that i do need to work on myself but i dont want to give up on this relationship if i am just imagining that things are bad. he does do some nice things but i just don’t know if i’m making too big a deal over it. or if my sights are a little low. how do i work on me?
First get him out of your life. If you have no respect for you either will anyone else. If you truly want to grow on a personal level you should not be distracted by any relationship for a while. You need to devote your total attention to you, who you think you are as a person, what needs to be changed about who you are and how will you go about it. There are many facets to a personality that at some point all need to be addressed. Unless you decide that you are willing to live a life of settling. If you think he is the kind of person you would like to spend the rest of your life with tell him when you are finished redoing you, you will give him a call. If he loves you he will wait.
thanks for the great advice, and now i know its time for me. thanks
Your welcome KT. Good luck. You know where to come for help.
yea i would have to say just leave him! there is someelse out there for you! good luck
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omg ur relationship reminds me of so much of the one im in right now and i dont know what to do either and u remind me so much of me and how i am
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I am most probably wrong, i always seem to be for most of the things in my life, but i need to say just this and leave u with this thought,
“If this guy truly loves u in the way in which u love him, then he wouldn’t need to get angry and treat u in the way in which u say he does. ” I am sure this guy is is really nice underneath. He needs to grow up though n start treating his girlfriend with respect. Again u prob don’t want to listen to me. I know pretty much nothing about relationships, that is proved when i try and hold one together, but just sit this guy down and explain how u feel. If he truly loves , he will except he has some issues; he is wrong and will either get help for his behaviour and apologise or continue. If he continues, perhaps, i hope to god this isn’t true, then he might just not be the guy for you.
I hope things work out and wish u every bit of luck!!!! :-)
dump him u deserve better it doent matter who you are u deserbe to b treated with respect that everyone deserves you dont need a person lke that bringing you down! boys are like busses there is always another one coming!
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I am one that also has a bit of a problem with my B.F. I mean I love him so much and he treats me good but I have a problem with him thinking about his self all the time. He worries more about his apperance,money, and car. Yes,he loves me but were two different types of people as far as being selfish and thinking about self. He does different types of things with me that i’ve never experienced but the things that I don’t like just pushes the good away. Sometimes I feel like I don’t want to be with him anymore but another day I might feel totally different. Don’t get me wrong i’ve asked for him to change and I see him trying but I still feel he’s going to be the braggin’, gotta have this, gotta have that type. Should I wait for change, if so how long? or should I just be free for a while?
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yes i know how you feel you wanna give everything to him and he just loves you for the moment and the next your annoying and to clingy. you want to work things out but hes just out of it and dosent really care. And all you can think about in the relationship are the good things he has done for you. its hard because you wanna salvage a relationship so bad
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mabey he just with u to make some other girl jelouse or somthing else bc if he treats u like crap that seems to mean he doesent like u
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Listen I am a man, if a man doesn’t treat you write don’t yell at him, talk to him and if he doesn’t make the change leave him. But if he tells you the truth about yourself, you have to be ready for it. You can’t combat the things he says. You have to be ready to look at yourself as the problem as well.
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