girl help: fear of kissing. - Help.com

gee, good thing i read A and B because that gave me two good pieces of information. lol!
i would talk to a family member, a friend, just ask someone how they feel about kissing. im gonna be a freshie this upcoming year so theres not much advice for me to give lol…but, good luck!

okay..call me old fashioned but i’d say don’t kiss with someone just to practice it and ease your fear away
i think a kiss is a lot more special..you should only kiss with someone who means something to you, like when you’re in love or when you have a crush etc.
and a kiss in the perfect moment will make you loose your fear and will turn out perfect just because you did it with someone special

thats what i think to, but as it seems any girl who ends up liking me ends up to be the slutty type.

well then thee right one didn’t came so far :) no worries you’re only 15 :)

i wouldn’t suggest asking her…that would prolly be awkward and thats kinda rude calling her big and ugly…especially since shes ur friend.
anyhow kissing usually comes naturally, however i have met some people who aren’t good at it, not to say it hasnt come naturally for you, but if your uncomfortable go to some parties and hook up and by hook up i mean making out, this way you can practice. however if your not a big party person just play 7 minutes in heaven or spin the bottle or truth and dare with some people… i guess thats a bit young, but you can get some practice that way with somebody you dont really need to impress so you can be totally creative.

it’s best to wait.
no need to rush into something you don’t want yourself.

btw creativity is good…its boring kissing a guy who kisses the same way everytime

i meant bit* my bad.
and to be 100% honest im a good looking guy. 6 feet tall and good looking. my friend already in her words “im also fun to **** around wit, just puttin that out there” so thats why that came across my head

being “fun to **** around with” gets old (trust me). I’m not positive how it is for guys, but eventually ur gonna meet somebody you really wanna be with and u cant because u were their hook up. my advice is to be the guy who girls actually want to be around with out just hooking up.
from a girls point of view my friends and I always sorted guys into the datable, and the one nite stands and the one nite stands were always the good looking guys and the datables were always the average guys who we actually liked being around. looks arent that important to alot of girls that they wouldnt also need the personality. so be the datable guy not the hook up guy.

im not the hook up guy, and ive never had a girlfriend. altho theres always atleast 3 girls going crazy trying to get near me because im nice, attractive, and respectable. but i have a fear of kissing, and i want my first girlfriend to be special and i wont settle for less

if it makes you nervious, just don’t kiss with tounge, dont use the tounge at all, that’s the safe zone :)

Anonymous wrote:
im not the hook up guy, and ive never had a girlfriend. altho theres always atleast 3 girls going crazy trying to get near me because im nice, attractive, and respectable. but i have a fear of kissing, and i want my first girlfriend to be special and i wont settle for less

I’m sorry i didnt mean to insult you. I’m just advising you to not become that guy cuz its really easy to do when you have people who like you. have you had ur first kiss?? or are you saying ur saving it for ur first gf?

xila wrote:
if it makes you nervious, just don’t kiss with tounge, dont use the tounge at all, that’s the safe zone :)

I totally agree and some girls dont even like tongue. :)

I think that you should just find some girl that you like. and explain it to them, tell them about this fear. and if they like you back they will understand. and work with you. because in the end, when it comes down to it, kissing ect. doesn’t matter as long as you share a bond of somesort.

♪The Music of Love wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
im not the hook up guy, and ive never had a girlfriend. altho theres always atleast 3 girls going crazy trying to get near me because im nice, attractive, and respectable. but i have a fear of kissing, and i want my first girlfriend to be special and i wont settle for less

I’m sorry i didnt mean to insult you. I’m just advising you to not become that guy cuz its really easy to do when you have people who like you. have you had ur first kiss?? or are you saying ur saving it for ur first gf?

xila wrote:
if it makes you nervious, just don’t kiss with tounge, dont use the tounge at all, that’s the safe zone :)

I totally agree and some girls dont even like tongue. :)

no insult taken, but its not my first kiss. itd be my 5th. and theres no girl whos actually worth it, but i guess hang out with them and this is the part ill ask for help on. what to do after we both like eachother, tell her my fear?

i don’t think telling a girl you are afraid of kissing is a good idea, putting myself in high school and hearing a guy say that…. it would turn me off. don’t do that! and if you guys have any problem she might say your secret……. just get a friend with benefits and………… PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT.

see thats what im sayin. but people will always find out.

nah.. they will think thats the way you kiss……. there are guys who are twenty something and kiss really badly but I think “thats the way he kises.. ugh” but i never think its because they are nervious, i just think they are bad kissers. and a bad kisser is simply that guy who suffocates me….. and uses the tougue too soon or too much. just watch movies when people kiss… go with a romantic always romantic kiss, and when the times comes… you will go with the flow and leave the romantic part behind when you kiss :)