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I don’t know how to reassure my boyfriend.
We have been together for 4yrs despite his living in Europe and my living in the US with relatively few problems. Over a year and a half ago I almost left him though. I thought that by now we would have mended things and be able to move forward together as a couple. Out of the blue last night he brought it up and was apparently deeply reflecting on what had happened. Now nothing I can do will reassure him. I thought that by simply loving him, being there for him, and by not giving him reason to doubt me that he would begin to trust me again. I understand that he needs that reassurance. Now I am finding that I need reassurance as well: I fear that he may leave me simply because of his fear of my leaving. He needs certainty and structure in his life; he is a very logical, deeply-thinking man. I don’t want to lose him a year and a half after my almost mistake. What can I do?
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