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i love God and i would never want to let anyone stand in the way of that, and marriage will if it’s the wrong person =/

as a christian, i would never marry anyone out of my religion because God comes first

If you love and respect eachother then its not a problem… but that could be a problem if hes a strict muslim, the kind that makes thier wives cover themselves (I know one guy like that but hes not actually strict hes just a jerk)

Thank you so much for your response. I have to agree with you and I love God deeply too. I’m experiencing a difficult situation in dating and my instinct tells me no and to trust God. I love him so much and I want to honor him in everything that I do. I appreciate your feedback, this helps.

If you, a Christian, can marry a Muslim, then he is not much of a “religious” man. Generally speaking it’s not a good idea, especially if you plan on having children. That is when the subject of religion can raise it’s ugly head again.

Personally… I think a Christian woman would be crazy to marry a Muslim man.

I think it could work if the two are not as strong in their faith or strict in their beliefs. However, when two people in a relationship are doing two different things that establish foundation in their life, there could be a disconnect. You don’t want to feel disconnected from your wife or your husband, not a good thing. Some people can do it, and some people bother not to. Go with your instinct.

Right on Richard! I agree

and also marriage can either make or break you as i have witnessed in the lives of many family members who married the wrong person. it is hell…having to witness custody battles, etc. so the person you marry should be the one you relate to the most, can communicate the most, and not one who will obviously cause problems

I’m not really religious but come on this is ridiculous. Isn’t God supposed to be the embodiment of love or something like that? So who you love you are experiencing God correct? As long as this love is at least equally selfless as it is selfish then its really love, so there is no contradiction. I don’t think God would want people to be stingy and stay away from people of other religions as if you are better than them or something. I can not tell you what to do though. Maybe you are just using God and religion as an excuse not to marry this person because you have other reasons. You should just take time to think about everything. Just ask yourself why do you like this man and why wouldn’t you like him?

Thank you all. This is my first time using help.com and you have no idea how much I appreciate your support and feedback. I’m so happy we have sources like this to rely on and consider.

As a christian is asking this question,

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?” (2 Cor. 6:14, KJV).

may be the most pertinent answer. I think that it not only applies to marriage, but also any situation where you bind yourself to another person. (or job relationships)

I do not believe this is so much a commandment as it is a warning. If you live with someone that believes something different, you will run into problems. Its the advice of Paul.

from the Quran found online: 060.012
YUSUFALI: O Prophet! When believing women come to thee to take the oath of fealty to thee, that they will not associate in worship any other thing whatever with Allah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit adultery (or fornication), that they will not kill their children, that they will not utter slander, intentionally forging falsehood, and that they will not disobey thee in any just matter,- then do thou receive their fealty, and pray to Allah for the forgiveness (of their sins): for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (http://www.usc.edu/schools/college/crcc/engagement/resources/texts/muslim/q uran/060.qmt.html)

Of course many Christian religions say pretty much the same thing :) Although I do know Catholics can marry outside their religion, even withing the church, if they VOW to raise the children Catholic.

People of other religions are not evil. The differences in names for God or number of gods and all the different stories makes absolutely no difference in someone. What really matters is who a person is on the inside and if they are good kind people or not.

sum wrote:
People of other religions are not evil. The differences in names for God or number of gods and all the different stories makes absolutely no difference in someone. What really matters is who a person is on the inside and if they are good kind people or not.

we’re not saying people of other religions are evil. personally, ive met many muslims in my life and they have been more awesome than the usual person, and i love religious people of any faith - it’s admirable. however, if youre religious and you marry a person of another religion or none, it will not only put a strain in your marriage but most importantly your religion. i would want someone to marry me for God as much as for myself

You all have great points. I have to say that if you know what you believe and walk by the word of God, you do not take things like this lightly. People of other religions are not evil but the bottom line - there is a difference. It’s ok to be different but when two people join their life together this should be taken seriously. If I pray one way and he prays another - how are we connecting in a way that will make our marriage fruitful and give both of us understanding. How are we to make decisions when the Quran leads him one way and my bible leads him another?

I have two friends who are married to Muslim men and they both regret it. They say that they feel disconnected from their husbands, that raising their children is always a problem, and they feel harsh consequences because of the decisions they made. Like Fire said, I believe that scripture in the bible is clearly a warning and there are consequences that follow when we make decisions that do not honor God.

Good point TellMeAnything. I’ve met many people of different faiths and I love all people for who they are. In terms of this subject, I agree with what you said.

Well i was just using the word evil from the way it seems worded like its such a horrible thing. You can divide people in many ways. Religion, race, clothing style, dialect, political party…… and so on but if you really love someone those differences are minor. I do understand sometimes you cant be with someone who is too different from you but this has nothing to do with going against any God. Most religions have a lot of the same stuff but just different gods and stories. Most religious people dont even follow 100% of what they religion they follow says. All Im saying is plenty of couples can deal with things like that very easily. Maybe you should just see what things you two believe in to see how different, and im not talking about all the God stuff like that i mean practical things that apply to your everyday lives. If you really dont want to marry him why did you even ask total strangers? thats not really a question for me but a question for yourself.

Im not trying to be cruel or anything… just making sure this isnt a one sided debate where you get coaxed into doing something just because you got a random batch of people showing up at one time.

To Sum: I do want to marry the man but I’m apprehensive in doing so. It’s nothing wrong with me reaching out to strangers, this is what help.com exists for. We do not make decisions or arrive in places alone and if you feel I shouldn’t ask strangers, then feel free not to respond. I’m sure you’ve struggled with issues in your life and just needed some feedback of another person’s viewpoint. Often times, I just wonder who else is experiencing this issue and what advice can they offer me.

Just because most people do not follow 100% of what they believe or what their religion says does not mean I should too. I don’t believe that and I don’t use it as an excuse. My walk with God and as a Christian is very important to me and I strive to live up to God’s expectations and not the world. To say that all couples can deal with an issue like this very easy is not true. All the God “stuff” is not just stuff. It’s very important to me and I take my relationship with God very seriously.

this is no debate, its clear that there is an obvious answer.

hands down.

Either way, if you are both strict in following your religious beliefs(so many people see ’strict’ as meaning “with the exception of…”, so I’ve no idea what the word ’strict’ means to you) then of course it’ll be a problem - you’ll be unable to function as a couple from day one(which makes me wonder - how have the dates been?)!
You can’t be THAT strict a Christian(nor he, Muslim) if you are dating each other to begin with. So why the sudden attack of worry?
Like another poster said - isn’t God supposed to be Love Unconditional?

Look to your heart I suppose.
Which do you feel comes first - the personal act of devotion to God or the human expression of the Glory of God?

No i didn’t say it was wrong… I’m here too you know. I meant you should think about why you are having so much trouble when you seem to already lean toward an answer. That’s what i meant to say but I’m tired so its hard to word. I have not been in this situation on several accounts such as i am not really religious but that’s about the same as being religious if there is still a conflict in beliefs and i haven’t even had a girlfriend because i haven’t gotten to be with the one i love.

So your a very strict Christian? I had guessed you were higher up but I didn’t assume you were the strictest level.

As a Christian (Catholic at the time) I was married to a non-Christian in the church. There was constant friction because some of the Catholic faith was hard for her to swallow (more like impossible). This became a bigger issue once the children were born. She ultimately stuck to her vows, but it was a constant battle. Still is and we’re divorced now. (yeah yeah… I don’t want to hear about the divorce!)

@ SUM, thank you very much. I appreciate your feedback, all of them. Have a great day!

Lol! @ Richard. Thanks for sharing your personal experience.