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College should be fun, and there are reasons why some people never want to leave school. I would say, if you don’t want to regret it, you should spend time with your family, as they apparently are getting older and won’t be around for ever.

People realize as they get older their own mortality and sometimes that makes them take life more seriously, and allot time for doing different things. Maybe that’s why some of your more ’serious’ friends have viewed you as someone who doesn’t view the same things as important, as they do.

Congratulations. You’re now officially an adult.

The moment that you feel as though you are standing still, and everybody you know and love are passing you by… that is the sign that you have entered into the next phase of your life. It’s good that you’re realizing these things at age 24. Some people get married right out of high school, start having kids, and they don’t experience this until their 40s, at which point they snap like twigs and buy a corvette.

Over the next year or two, you’re going to start realizing how petty and foolish you have been in your life. You’ll look back at your 20 year old self, and reflect on all the stupid things you did, and learn from them. Then, when you get to be 30-32 years old, you’ll look back on your life at 24, and laugh about how worried you were.

In the next few years, you’ll start meeting three broad categories of people.

There will be the wash-ups, who are people that partied their early 20s away, and are just now starting college the way they SHOULD have back when they were 18. They will make everything three times as hard as it needs to be, because they are stuck in their ways, and don’t want to change.

The second category will be people like yourself. They will feel distant, uncertain of the future, and probably won’t have many friends. These are people you’re most likely to connect with, and form long lasting friendships that you’ll keep the rest of your life. They will be people that go to the movies alone, take cooking classes, and continue their education.

The last category will be people that are married, have kids, and are so busy juggling their lives and schedules, that they might forget about you. It sounds like your friends and family might be in this category. Just be patient with them, because they probably don’t even realize they’re doing it. You’ll lose touch with them for a couple years, but then most likely reconnect over a big event (birth of a child, death of a relative, etc.). Just keep in touch with them, and learn to enjoy taking care of kids. You’ll be everybody’s favorite Uncle one of these days.

As for romance, just don’t worry about it. If you meet somebody you like, ask them out. You’re at a maturity level where people don’t expect you to play games. Just be open and honest, and enjoy the woman for who she is.

Okay, well. It’s time to grow up. Party time is over for most people your age I’m afraid. Your friends are getting the picture here. It’s time to leave the childish things behind and start being an adult. These friends of yours are probably thinking about things like marriage and family so they have to be responsible now. No more partying, hooking up and things like that. You say you’re 24. It sounds like you still have the mind-set of an 18 year old. That phase in your life is over now so accept it. You’re in a rut b/c you’re stuck in the past. It’s time to get on with your life. You probably don’t have a girlfriend because girls your age aren’t looking for someone to party with anymore. Most of them are beginning to think about settling down and they want stable relationships with responsible guys. Your childhood is over dear. It’s time to face the music. Go back to grad school and finish. Stop dwelling on the old times. If you want to get out of this rut you have to move forward, like your friends seem to be doing. I don’t mean to sound harsh but that’s the way life is. Meet new friends and do new things. Buckle down and finish school. You have to make sacrifices to achieve the things you want in life, no one is gonna hand it to you. Best of luck, I hope things start working out for you.

I don’t think you can sum up everyone into three neat little categorizes.

you are only stuck somewaer when you believe your stuck.It’s kind of like being scared of hights you alway stay in line and on the groung cause god forbid you climbed your roof of your house or stood on the side of the cliff edge you could fall.Buy if you think that way you can never fly.No sky diving for you and you’ll never feel complete.Like something your missing out on and just because oh no you can’t do that.Look go out on a limb.Find what you like to do what really brings you to life anything you love and do it.darn the consequences you have one life live it.And as for as your friends are concerned no one is going to be in your life forever ppl grow and in most cases you don’t stay with most of the ppl you knew.Do what you love and be happy and socail and have confidence in yourself and you’ll see in time you’ll have new friends and maybe a girl you can really love both of which will have things in common with you.be happy with your life and remember don’t be afraid of hights because you have one life and living without the moments that make our hearts fly at incredible rates is like living without love.It’s like a world without sun,the spark without the flame.Take your leap of faith.Don’t fear where you’ll end up live in the now.you wanted to be a lawer probably to help ppl right? I once heard a man can eather have a life of meaning of greatness or a life of happiness and love because for a man to be happy he must live in the present in the moment without worry of the future or of the past.To be a man of greatness a man would have to always ponder the future and the past with worry.You can be one or the other but not both.I’m not saying that a simple life with a wife and kids is insignificant but it will not be in the history of man.You have the chioce trust in yourself have confidence and you will find your way maybe you’ll find you want to be something completely different.good luck.

Times’ gone mad wrote:
I don’t think you can sum up everyone into three neat little categorizes.

Well, that’s why I said “broad” categories. It’s not meant as a stereotype, or as an attempt at simplifying the world. It is just a way to describe the most common situations in which people find themselves at that awkward mid-20s age range.

Also, I didn’t say he’d only meet people of those types, or that all people must fit into those categories. Just that he’d start meeting these particular types of people more often in the next few years.