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Things are weird.
I’m a 24 year-old male. I graduated college two years ago and have been working since at a boring office job. I used to always have many people to hang out with, I used to party a ton, hook up with chicks, etc. I had a really good time in college, and I postponed grad school partly because a bunch of my friends were moving back home and I figured we’d continue the good time for a little while. But then they put the brakes on. Alot of them got gf’s or a new group of friends. And it’s weird because I know if you asked them to name their top 5 highlights of their life, I’d be in at least a couple of the stories. One of them actually apologized to me the other day for not ever calling me to see what’s up or anything for the past year (but not with the intention that he’s going to change anything–it was more like “sorry for being a d**k…you’re friendship helped me be cool and get my life on a good path, but now you’re on your own”). And I’m not the only one he did that to–he burned a few other guys in our group, too. But that’s f**ked up because this kid was one of my best friends.
Anyway, I get why people put the brakes on. I mean some of them met good girls and they know better than to let them get away. But I never expected this to happen so fast. What happened to “30 is the new 20?” I mean it’s just weird that everyone is so focused on themselves already. And it sucks extra because it’s harder for me to meet new friends or chicks because it looks like I have no friends, which is kind of true.
I know my office job was kind of a bad choice. Everyone I work with is about 8-10 years older than me. But I wanted to do it for a little and see what it was like. It was only supposed to be short-term, and then I’d leave but nothing else ever came up and with the recession I couldn’t get into a bartending job or anything. I had the attitude that as long as I had my friends and family, things would work out. But my family is getting smaller and smaller (pretty much just the nuclear family now), and I already told you about my friends.
So now what’s left…grad school? One of other reasons I didn’t go to grad school (for law) is that it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. I mean I definitely like the field and everything, but I know that there are alot of bulls**t hoops that you have to jump through to be a lawyer. I figured I’d spend as much time as I could with my friends. Granted, I’m focused now, but I feel like I’m too focused. I don’t care about law school enough to immerse myself in the reading of arcane cases. I’ve worked at a law firm for two years now and I see how much all that matters when you’re actually practicing law (not alot).
But I don’t really know what else to do. I feel like I have to make some kind of move. So off to grad school I go–unreliable friends, no girlfriend, and parents who I have to take care of instead of them taking care of me. Also, my extended family is pretty thin and frail.
Ya know, in the back of my mind I knew some of this stuff would happen, but I had no idea it was in your early twenties.
Any advice for a chump like me? Do you think I can get out of this rut?
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