boyfriend help: My boyfriend won’t help me financially.

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My boyfriend won’t help me financially.

We have been living together for about a year and a half, I’m 3 months pregnant and I recently lost my job. We have always paid half of all the house bills, but now I don’t have any money coming in and he still expects me to pay for all my bills + half of the house bills. I’ve asked him for help, but he says he can’t. He says he doesn’t even have a dollar to give me. I don’t know what to do. This really saddens me :( Am I wrong for feeling like he’s just not willing?

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Anonymous #
2 years, 10 months ago (7 minutes after post)

i take it he’s the baby’s daddy(if not, that’s so awkward). in that sense yes he should be open to the idea of helping as much as he can ’till you get back on your feet. not saying he should be paying for you expecting nothing back(like repayment) but he should be open and understanding and if he truly can’t afford it he should help you look for ‘help’ someplace else. ’till you get another job that is. if not maybe it’s time to move back to mom and dad.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (10 minutes after post)

if he has money and just wont help then make him change every nappy :p

Anonymous #
2 years, 10 months ago (11 minutes after post)

black rose wrote:
if he has money and just wont help then make him change every nappy :p

if that’s the case be ready to jump on him for child support.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (17 minutes after post)

I’m looking for a job, and mom lives in a diff country, I wouldn’t be able to move out until I find a job to pay for rent and if that happens, then YES, I would definitely would put him on child support, and Yes, he’s the baby daddy. lol.

Anonymous #
2 years, 10 months ago (23 minutes after post)

depending on how much you need, you can try getting a loan whether it be from credit cards, with your car tittle, ask close friends, parents, family members etc. also depending the reason as to why you lost your job, can you claim unemployment? check out local churches and shelters as they should have leads for where you could go and get help to pay your housing/utilities etc.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (38 minutes after post)

maybe he just cant afford it? get a job.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (58 minutes after post)

I would definitely apply for unemployment while also looking for a job.

Looking for a job is a full time job.
Then talk to this guy and explain to him that what you can give towards the cost of living is only a percent of what you use to give.

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An Unknown Location | 2 years, 8 months ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

I think it’s really sad that he isn’t willing to help you. After all you guys are starting a family together and should love each other and help each other through thick and thin. It’s not your problem that you don’t have a job, it’s both of your problem. He should learn that although money might be tight there are ways to save, he has to start cutting corners wherever he can like no more movie night, no drinking with the boys, cheaper meals etc. If he doesn’t do this now, then it might create a greater problem down the line. You might start resenting him, and if ever he’s in that situation you might not want to help him b/c he wouldn’t help you. If he can’t see your perspective, then maybe you should reconsider where your relationship is really at.

But for now, you guys are together, love each other, and need to work through this together, what’s yours is his and what’s his is yours.

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