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My husband just got deployed for his second deployment to Iraq about two weeks ago.
At first he said it would be difficult to write to me because they needed to get settled in and everything. So he called me after they got settled and then the calls stopped coming. Everyone else was so excited because they get a call from their husbands every day and they’ve been skyping on webcam a lot. So, after about 5 days of not hearing from him, I sent him an email asking why he hasn’t called and told him how upset and confused I was. He replied by telling me that he doesn’t want to call because it upsets him to think about me and his family and friends back home. But, I tried to explain to him that isn’t fair to me because I need to hear his voice every once in a while. So, then he said he would try harder to call more. So, three days goes by, and I still haven’t gotten a call. It’s just not like him to do this. We’ve always had a long distance relationship so we know communication is key. But he just keeps telling me he doesn’t want to call because it depresses/upsets him. I’m trying to be strong for him and be supportive, but it gets to a certain point where he needs to understand I’m his wife and I need to hear from him. I just don’t know how to respond to him or how to feel.
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