friends help: Why did I lose the genetic lottery?

capncrunch40

Why did I lose the genetic lottery?

I’m 18 I’ve been balding for two years now. I have a weird shaped head and my forehead has a bump on it so i’m screwed when im completely bald. I have man boobs that are REAL BREAST TISSUE AND I HAVE TO GET SURGERY TO REMOVE THEM. I was born without the two adult teeth next to my two front teeth, so I had to get teeth implants for them and they look horrible. Spent 4 years of high school with a retainer with teeth on it. I had horrible acne, I’ve been on accutane and im going to have gigantic pore craters on my face because of the acne and my horrible skin. My nose is gigantic, huge bump in it and it just looks weird. I’ve been fat all my life and I have stretch marks. I currently have no friends and no one enjoys speaking to me or being near me. Everytime I try and talk to someone i see them get bored and start looking away. I’ve never kissed a girl or been friends with a girl. I suck at sports and im an idiot.

why me? why did all of this crap happen to me? why cant i be normal? why cant i be happy?

Happiness is completely impossible for me

I just dont understand what i did to deserve this…

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Anonymous #
2 years, 10 months ago (10 minutes after post)

I’m so sorry you feel this way..
Everyone has their own personal insecurities.
You would really show the world a thing or two if you built up the most secure self confidence ever, a lot of people (including ladies) would be impressed.

awakemysoul 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (13 minutes after post)

and what are your good points?

Help me with: Realising how unhappy you were when you are the most happy you’ve been for a long time teaches you to know- everything

capncrunch40 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (14 minutes after post)

I dont have any good points

Help me with: I need some new hobbies any ideas?

awakemysoul 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (18 minutes after post)

of course you do come on dont be shy about yourself here,

Help me with: Realising how unhappy you were when you are the most happy you’ve been for a long time teaches you to know- everything

capncrunch40 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (28 minutes after post)

I’ve been told I have nice green eyes but I’ve been working out so I’ve lost 30 pounds but I still have 15-25 to go. I just dont see how it matters though. I’ve never met a person with ugly eyes and losing weight really isnt some great miracle. Everyone was skinny once and losing weight just makes you normal again…

Help me with: I need some new hobbies any ideas?

Araz 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (31 minutes after post)

Hey,

I’m not going to tell you to have more confidence in yourself or that inner beauty is what matters most because you’ve heard all that before and, frankly, it feels a little condescending when people say things like that to me. So I’m going to tell you this:

When I was in high school I had really bad acne.

I had absolutely zero friends.

I had never kissed or dated a guy.

I had braces.

I was unbelievably shy.

I had NO self confidence.

I’m now 23 years old. I’ve dated, I’ve made friends, people have come and gone in my life. My skin has cleared up to the point that people don’t believe that I ever had acne.

You’re taking acutane. You’ve got the retainer thing going on. You’re getting surgery (P.S. Let’s not advertise why. Nobody needs to know.) Get a buzz cut, the bump probably isn’t as bad as you think it is and neither is your nose.

Maybe you are really unattractive-I don’t know b/c I haven’t ever seen you in person. But make up for it with an awesome personality and everyone will want to be around you. It’s true that the physical attracts people to others but personality is what keeps you there.

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Help me with: I am so tired of how partisan and close minded our country is becoming.

capncrunch40 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (41 minutes after post)

i appreciate the post araz but that is what ive heard before. looks are unbelievably important in life and yes its true a great personality will bring you farther than looks, but i have neither and i will never be able to compete with people who both even if i do somehow find a great personality…

Help me with: I need some new hobbies any ideas?

awakemysoul 3 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (45 minutes after post)

i think your being too hard on yourself, love yourself see what happens

Help me with: Realising how unhappy you were when you are the most happy you’ve been for a long time teaches you to know- everything

capncrunch40 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (48 minutes after post)

i am hard on myself. theres so much wrong with me and theres really nothing i can do, most of this isnt my fault.

Help me with: I need some new hobbies any ideas?

Araz 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (52 minutes after post)

Well, you lost a lot of weight so you should be proud about that. I dunno why you’re competing with people though. It doesn’t matter if someone is better looking than you or funnier. Everyone has problems. Even the happiest person you meet will have felt suicidal at least once in their life. You’ve gotta accept yourself for who you are. Why would anyone love a person who doesn’t love themself?

Help me with: I am so tired of how partisan and close minded our country is becoming.

capncrunch40 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour after post)

your exactly right, i just dont know if its possible for me to accept myself and be happy with my life

Help me with: I need some new hobbies any ideas?

Araz 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years, 10 months ago (1 hour, 3 minutes after post)

It’s only possible if you make it happen. It’s all on you. No pressure. ;)

Btw, I’ve found that faking confidence often leads to having real confidence. So… pretend to be happy and confident and you’re more than halfway there!

Help me with: I am so tired of how partisan and close minded our country is becoming.