Family help: my 15yr old bro found out he had cancer march 2006 and our family has been torn since. - Help.com

How is your 15 year old brother with the cancer doing?

What kind of cancer does he have?

Now that you mention it, are you making it up? When we read your story about the only thing we could help you with was your relationship with your brother that has cancer. That is why we asked about him in the first place. It has been 10 months since he was diagnosed, we figured you would have a pretty good idea where his cancer stands right now. Funny you would take that inquiry as making it up. No hard feelings.

Longtohelp, do you live with your brother now, or at least visit him frequently? Is he stable or still iffy?

Our advice to you longtohelp is this: Most of what you listed you really can’t change. What you can do is share your thoughts, feelings and love with your brother whenever you get the chance. Let him know what he has meant to you in your lifetime. With your sis that was raped, be a loving ear for her whenever she needs to talk about what happended or her feelings about it. Your dad and mom and their marriage may have cracked under the pressure of your brothers’ diagnosis. You cannot fix their relationship but you can let both know that you love them dearly and would assist them getting back together however you could. If they choose not to, perhaps you can hunt down some governmental aid your mom may be entitled to or watch the kids while your mom goes to work. Does this help any?

Hey I’m sorry about your brother,
MY uncle died from cancer, so i know what ur going throw he was 15 when he died. I know it’s hard but just give him reasurance that even though his girlfriend broek up with him that it’s really just her loahs (i cant spell it but i hope you get the picture) I know that cancer can tear a family a part b.c someone close to you is in pain, so how are his treatments going, what does the doctor having him do, like blood transfusions, or Kemo?
I really hope you do more research on his diease because it does help him if you talk about it, and make him accept it.
What exactally does it effect, my moms a nurse, and my grandpa is a doctor so i do know things, but i never did my research on them all.
I really do wish your brother the best and i hope he has A Miriale The power of prayer if you beilve does wonders God will look out for you and your family god bless you and i hope you emiontionally are rebound

Hi Longtohelp: I’ve kind of joined in her sort of late in the game. I’m so sorry to hear of all the heartache in your family. And yes, families are scarey, aren’t they?
I’m sorry your Dad left your Mom–There is no excuse for his behavior or for the fact he left her almost penniless right in the midst of a crisis.
I can’t imagine what you guys have felt like with ‘all hell breaking loose”!
I’m glad your brother is recovering–your mother will too in time. And your sister who was raped by a family member will find healing eventually. The law of love demands in time you forgive all of your family for all hurts real and imagined done to one another.
With the kind of pain your Mom and Dad were experiencing with the cancer in your brother and the rape–I am certain they were going absolutely crazy. I don’t know how much unhappiness existed between your mom and dad up until all this happened, but grief and rage over tragedies like you guys are walking through can split a marriage very easily.
People grieve differently–some withdraw and go away into a personal
interior cave–other people run around seeking help from everywhere–but in a grieving like I’m sure your parents were doing–there are rare instances a marriage would survive. Unfortunately rage is easier to experience than pain so many people in grief just boil up inside and can do a lot of damage to themselves and their families. Depression can also mask the anger at injustice and ‘why me? why us?”.
I encourage you to continue chatting on help.com There are many people here with combined experiences that are delighted to share with you from similar experiences.
You guys have really gone through a war–stand together and help one another. Pray for one another–believe in the good in one another–encourage each other you guys can get through this. You will and believe it or not, when you look back I’m betting altho’ you wouldn’t want to relive the experiences, you would not want to go back to being the people you were before all this pain began.
Someone told me once–”there are only two exits to the tunnel of pain and suffering–one is bitterness; the other is peace and joy.
God bless you!