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my bf refuses to cook.
we agreed it would be a 50/50 thing, and i would take on more when i could ’cause i’m a ‘better’ cook. i have class on saturday morning ’till noon so i marinated some meat the day before so he could make it for lunch and i’d have something to eat when i got home. but he didn’t make it, he made something for himself. he makes things for himself all the time and i mean literally just for himself, as in just enough for him to eat and there’s none left over for anyone else. as he tells me, he does it ’cause he sucks at cooking so much it’s only edible to him and even then he only eats it ’cause he doesn’t want to waste it and throw it away. so i asked him to make it when i got there and he begged as he always does, if i could make it ‘just this once’ for myself, as he already ate. i was tired, as i work night-shifts, worked the night before and went straight to class so i didn’t make it and got something delivered instead. of course he didn’t make it for dinner either since there was enough left over from lunch. he told me he would make it the next day, but of course again he asked me to make it ‘just this once’ so i did, ’cause come on now eating out all the time is not my ideal. i told him it really annoys me, not to mention when i’m tired i don’t want to come and cook.
specially when i leave everything ready for him to make he still won’t do it, even if he says he will. he says it’s cause he hates wasting food and he’s so bad at it he rather me cook ’cause there’s less of a chance we’ll have to throw it out. now he has cooked a few times here and there, and i admit he kind’a sucks at it but hey as long as he’s getting practice he’ll probably get better with time. still, lately he’s really not even trying. he cooks for himself when i’m not there(i have my own place but spend a lot of time at his) so i know it’s not like he can’t cook at all. idk, he just gives me excuses, so i told him i won’t cook anymore ’till he starts picking up his slack. his way out is always ‘i’ll get something from outside’ which is fine when there’s no time or neither of us wants to cook, but i can’t eat out every single day so that doesn’t count, it wouldn’t if i did that instead of actually cooking either so. idk, what should i think of this?
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