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follow your heart. you shouldn’t do something you’re not comfortable with!! To spend time with her, go to a movie or out to eat!! That’s better than nothing at all!!

GOOD LUCK!!

I don’t understand, why your mom makes you scared. Maybe you should give us just a little bit more info.
If you don’t feel comfortable to go to your mom, maybe you could tell your dad and make different arangements. Your mom could visit you at your dads house or on neutral ground (pizza place, coffee shop, etc.)

Did he hurt you???

That’s what i think and if he hurt you and if you did not tell anybody what he did, you should. Tell everybody and don’t ever be alone with him.

As an adult we have a responsibilty to protect children and teenagers, if he does not act properly around you it is his fault and he needs punished for that.

I’m sorry about your situation. It must be so hard for you cuz of your love for you mom. Is your mom not willing to meet you alone outside of the home to spend some time with you? Please don’t go to their home. You have to think of your safety. I’ll keep you in my prayers. I so intensely dislike it when adults hurt children. That is so wrong.

Do you want to say what he did to you?

I have a hard time with this, here are a couple of questions:

Why is he not in jail and why is your mother still with him? If that was me he would be locked up or worse.

You need to go to the police and let them know.

I had to leave cuz i had classes this afternoon. Yes, I’m also wondering why isn’t your stepdad in jail. Was he not reported to the police for what he did to you? And yes, I’d also like to know why in the hell is your mom still with him. If I had a child & they were molested by a man I was with, he sure as hell would be in jail after I kicked him out the door. I agree with europa. He needs to be reported. By not reporting him, the door is being left open for him to molest other young girls which he has likely done already. Please don’t let him get away with this.. for your peace of mind & for your safety.

ChristianGirl: Based on what you’ve told me about your Mom and her house it is not a safe place for you.
You should not go to any place where you feel frightened and vulnerable where there is no protection for you.
Please continue to seek counseling for yourself–and in the meantime guard/protect yourself well.
Your emotional wellbeing is crucial to life/being able to make sound decisions/good choices.
Does your father know what happened at your mother’s house–if he does, I am wondering why he lets you go over there at all.

Look to hear from you soon.
Blessings.

Yeah I kinda agree…You should atleast seek out suprivised visits with your mother. This way you would no that you will not have to deal with him. She should come to you instead of you going to her.

Oh wow Christiangirl. You know, that totally infuriates me, both the fact that your mom chose him over you & the fact he didn’t spend much time in jail. I’m sorry but its hard for me to even understand how your mom could let her own child go for a man like him, how she can put him first in her heart over you. He’s a child molester. He likes little or young girls, and your mom sees nothing wrong with this.
I know you want to see your mom, but I don’t want you to go their house. Its too dangerous for you Christiangirl. You don’t know when he’ll be unable to control himself and go after you again.
What does your dad say about all of this? Why isn’t he helping you to deal with what happened?
Like everyone said above, and I’ll say it again. Please go and talk to someone about all this & get some kind of counseling. Inspite of what happened to you and your whole family situation, you’re handling it as well as possible. I would hate to see this affect you, your self image and your life in any negative way. I’ll continue to keep you in my prayers & please keep your heart open to God. He is there with you even now. Stay in touch with me if you can, ok? I care about what happens to you.

Christangirl, you can’t make excuses for you mom. I know it helps you to rationalize her behaviour and decision, because of the hurt and pain you feel in your heart. However, your mom is an adult woman. We all want romantic love, but when that person we love hurts an innocent child & sexually molests them, its our responsibility as adults to protect the child and report the molester to the authorities and do what we can to help the child through the trauma of what happened.
You mom needs help, but right now my concern is you and your safety. Please talk to your dad again and be honest with him and tell him everything that happened.
You said you can’t separate love, but think about that last sentence in your reply above. Isn’t that exactly what you mom is doing when she let you go. You should be her main love, not him.
I’m not a parent, but I hope to be one day. I don’t know if I’m actually helping you, but I just want you to know someone cares about you and about your safety and your life. I can’t do anything to change your situation, but perhaps I can help you hold on to hope and help you be strong inside. I don’t want you to hold your feelings inside of you, because that will hurt you in the long run. I don’t want you to be a statistic…to become an adult who let trauma from their chlldhood dictate what they’ll be in life. You have a great future ahead of you, and the fact that you’re handling your situation in such a mature manner & talking about it shows me you are strong inside & wise for your age. I have to go for now so I’ll talk with you later.